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SOPHIE TURNER AND JOE JONAS: THE MEDIATION PROCESS

Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas have recently entered into mediation to address custody matters and establish a parenting plan for their children. The legal representatives for the couple revealed that both parties would engage in a four-day mediation session.

While Judge Katherine Polk Failla had set a trial date for January 2, the mediation process could potentially resolve a significant portion of Turner and Jonas’ custody disputes. During a recent court appearance, Stephen Cullen, Turner’s attorney, asserted that Jonas is seeking joint custody, expressing a desire for a balanced 50-50 arrangement. 

How it Started: The Hague Convention

Actress Sophie Turner initiated a Hague Convention petition claiming her estranged husband, singer and actor Joe Jonas, ‘will not consent’ for their children to ‘return’ to England with her via The Hague Convention on Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction.

Best known for playing Sansa Stark on HBO’s Game of Thrones, Turner said in her petition that the couple had planned to raise their daughters in her native country. It also said the girls “are both fully involved and integrated in all aspects of daily and cultural life in England”.

International family law can be complex and challenging, especially concerning child custody disputes. The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Parental Child Abduction, aka The Hague Convention, is an international treaty that protects children from parental abduction across international borders.

The Hague Convention of 25 October 1980 on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction (1980 Hague Convention) is a multilateral treaty that establishes proceedings for the prompt return of children who have been wrongfully removed or kept away from their home country. Currently, there are 101 Contracting States to the Hague Convention. Including the United States and the United Kingdom.

The Significance of Mediation

The decision to pursue mediation comes after Turner’s legal action against her estranged husband, where she sued him for wrongful retention. The complaint against the musician demanded the “immediate return of children wrongfully removed or wrongfully retained,” with Turner’s legal team contending that this “wrongful retention” had begun on September 20, according to PEOPLE.

In response to Turner’s complaint, Jonas countered by expressing his disagreement with her claims, asserting that they had previously reached an agreement to collaborate on a co-parenting plan. Mediation, in essence, operates like having a peacemaker, known as a mediator, who facilitates constructive dialogue and guides individuals in dispute toward a mutually acceptable resolution.

This approach proves especially valuable for parents navigating the challenges of divorce or separation. Mediation provides a nurturing and non-adversarial environment where parents can address issues related to their children and the arrangements for their care.

Now, let’s delve deeper into how mediation can deliver benefits in high-profile cases like this and the everyday scenarios that many families encounter.

Privacy Preservation

One of the key benefits of mediation is the preservation of privacy. Mediation takes place behind closed doors, shielding sensitive family matters from the prying eyes of the media and the public. In traditional courtroom battles, the personal and often intimate details of a family’s life are exposed as evidence is presented, and testimonies are heard. In contrast, mediation focuses on resolving issues without delving into the nitty-gritty of personal lives. This helps protect the privacy and dignity of the parties involved, allowing them to maintain control over what remains private and what is disclosed.

High-profile couples like Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas often attract media attention, and their personal lives become fodder for tabloids and social media. They can minimize the sensationalism and public spectacle surrounding their family matters by choosing mediation. This benefits the couple and helps shield their child from unnecessary public scrutiny.

Maintaining Control

Mediation empowers parents to maintain control over the outcome of their custody and parenting arrangements. This open dialogue can be invaluable in addressing concerns and resolving conflicts constructively. Parents can voice their perspectives, express their desires, and collaboratively explore compromises through mediation. 

Families are dynamic and ever-evolving entities. What works today may not be suitable tomorrow. Mediation acknowledges this reality and allows for adjustments to the parenting plan over time. Parents can return to mediation to revise their arrangements as children grow and circumstances change. This adaptability is a significant asset, ensuring the parenting plan remains relevant and effective throughout the child’s development.

Child-Centered Approach

Regardless of the case’s profile, it’s imperative to maintain a child-centered approach throughout legal proceedings. Mediation helps foster an environment where parents are encouraged to set aside their differences and collaborate for the betterment of their children. Mediation promotes open communication and cooperative problem-solving rather than resorting to adversarial court battles.

This child-centered approach often yields more sustainable and child-friendly solutions. It allows parents to tailor agreements that best suit their children’s needs and circumstances. By focusing on the well-being and future of the children involved, we aim to provide legal guidance and a compassionate and holistic approach to resolving family disputes.

Challenges and Considerations

While mediation offers numerous advantages, it’s essential to recognize that it may not be suitable for every case. In such cases, litigation might be the only recourse to protect their children’s best interests. It’s worth noting that each family’s circumstances are unique, and the choice between mediation and litigation should be carefully considered. Ultimately, the goal is to find the most appropriate and effective means of resolving disputes while safeguarding the welfare of the children involved.

Last Thoughts

Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas’s decision to pursue mediation to address their custody issues and parenting plan is commendable. It showcases their commitment to providing their children with a stable and loving environment while preserving their privacy and control. Mediation can be a valuable tool for all parents, whether in the public eye or not.

Ultimately, the success of Sophie and Joe’s mediation will depend on their willingness to collaborate and prioritize their children’s needs. Regardless of the outcome, their choice to pursue mediation sets a positive example for others facing similar challenges. Sophie and Joe are setting the example that child-centered solutions are achievable, even in the spotlight of Hollywood.

A trial date has been set for just after the new year on Jan. 2. Turner’s lawyer Stephen Cullen hopes the trial will “proceed in parallel track to [the] mediation,” according to the outlet.

Read the full People article here. 

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Keeping yourself informed about legal developments is crucial, especially in areas as intricate as divorce mediation and parenting time conflicts. The Jonas/Turner case is just one example of the complex issues that can arise in these matters.

By staying updated with Masters Law Group, you empower yourself with the knowledge to help you make informed decisions about your legal situation. Our commitment to providing timely updates and insights aims to support you in your journey through the legal landscape.

 

Back to School: 5 Tips for Co-Parenting

Back to school comes with a lot of nerves and excitement for children and families. For parents who are separated, in the middle of a divorce, or  already divorced, co-parenting with your ex can be a challenge.  At this time of year however, your children need you to put aside your animosity in order to make their school year a success.

After a divorce, working with your child’s other parent may be uncomfortable to say the least. But making the effort to cooperate with your co-parent and your child’s school set-up can make things easier for everyone. That’s especially true now, with emerging strains of COVID-19, and now Monkeypox concerns clouding parents’ vision of the 2022-2023 school year.

We know it can be hard to get on the same page with your ex. We also know that you want what’s best for your children—and that means being able to communicate effectively with each other in order to ensure they get the education they deserve.

Here’s what you should know about co-parenting this fall and a couple of tips to help you prepare for your child’s 2022-2023 school year.

Share Obligations for Back to School Shopping

As the school year approaches, it’s important to remember that back-to-school shopping is a shared responsibility. Shopping for materials and supplies can be costly, especially if you’re buying them for more than one child. While many parents are happy to help their children pick out new clothes and supplies, others may not be as excited about the process of buying “boring” mandatory necessities. Make a clear plan of who is buying what, and when, to ensure your child doesn’t miss out on those soccer boots or rucksack (plus you’ll avoid duplication of expenses).

Keep a Predictable Parenting Time Schedule

Stay ahead of any anticipated disputes by designing, implementing, and complying with a detailed Parenting Time plan. Creating a parenting time schedule can be an emotional law topic and should have been set during your divorce proceedings. If this is not the case, it’s important for parent-child relationships to have consistency in their schedule, and therefore you need to set one immediately.

For parents, it helps both people keep track of the child’s activities. For children, it helps give them a sense of routine, security, and certainty that is an important part of healthy child development.

Inform Your Child’s School of Your Co-Parenting Arrangements

When your kids start a new school year, it’s important to make sure that the school knows who they should talk to in case of emergencies. And even more importantly, who they should release your children to after school.

At the start of each school year, provide the principal at your children’s school with a copy of your child custody and parenting time order. This is especially true if your custody/parenting time order has been modified over the past year, or if your kids have changed schools. This includes children who are graduating from elementary to middle or from middle to high school. This will put the school on notice about who they should talk to in case of emergencies, and who to release your children to after school to avoid conflict.

Coordinate Events with Your Co-Parent 

It can be difficult to attend school functions when you’re divorced. Your co-parent may not want you to go, or they might want you to attend but won’t be there themselves. If this is the case, make sure your child knows who will be attending without making it seem like the non-attending parent didn’t want to go.

Sporting events, class plays and class graduations are all important to your child and their development. They will ultimately suffer if you end up clashing at these important milestones. For their sake, try to cooperate with one another to attend school events together as a show of unity and support. If that isn’t a possibility, make sure your child knows who will be attending so they’re not on the lookout for ultimate disappointment.

Set Expectations and Remember Your Priorities

The first few weeks of school can be a bit chaotic. It’s important to remember that it’s not just your child who is adjusting to new teachers, new classrooms, and new classmates—you are too!

When you and your co-parent are starting back-to-school planning, make sure you’re both on the same page. Back-to-school time opens a door for conflict, but conflict results in the child/children suffering.

You and your co-parent need to know what is expected of each other. Who is going to help with homework? Who will take your child to football practice? Maybe mom helps one child and dad is responsible for helping the other. Maybe you take it in weekly or biweekly turns. There is no right answer, but whatever arrangement you and your co-parent decide upon should be detailed in your parenting plan to eliminate confusion in the future.

Allocation of Parental Responsibilities

If you STILL cannot come to a civil agreement on parenting time, Allocation of Parental Responsibilities is an actionable step to set a new plan in place.

There are three basic types of child allocation of parental responsibilities in Illinois — joint allocation of parental responsibilities, sole allocation of parental responsibilities and shared allocation of parental responsibilities:

Joint allocation of parental responsibilities requires parents to cooperate in decision-making regarding your child’s education and schooling matters, (amongst other decisions such as health care and religious instruction). It does not mean that the children live with each parent for an equal amount of time. The parties will agree or the court will assign a residential parent. The non-residential parent will pay child support and exercise parenting time. The amount of time the children spends with the non-residential parent is addressed in a parenting time agreement or order.

Sole allocation of parental responsibilities is the term that describes the arrangement that gives one parent the responsibility for deciding everything related to the child’s welfare. It does not mean that the other parent is out of the picture.

Shared allocation of parental responsibilities is a form of joint allocation of parental responsibilities. It is appropriate when the child spends equal time with each parent, the parents reside in the same school district and are able to joint parent.

How Masters Law Group Can Help

Masters Law Group LLC focuses on helping clients assert their rights to further the best interests of their children. Attorney Erin E. Masters is a court-appointed Child Representative and has experience advocating for children in these high-conflict matters. Attorney Anthony G. Joseph is also on the list of approved Guardian Ad Litem/Child Representatives for the Domestic Relations Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.

We offer a variety of services to help parents, children, and families through difficult times like Divorce, Parenting Time and Allocation of Parental Responsibilities. If you are in need of legal assistance, contact a member of our team today. Our attorneys will work with you to develop an action plan that is fair and fits your unique needs and goals. 

We will work diligently on your behalf and provide regular updates throughout the process. You can count on us when it matters most—and we hope that means now! Contact us today to speak to a qualified Chicago family law attorney to set up a free consultation with us.

 

5 Tips to Survive the Holidays Co-Parenting

Co-parenting over the holidays. These four words can bring either a sense of joy or dread this season, or even both. But with the right planning in place, you can experience a harmonious Hanukkah, cohesive Christmas and no-drama New Year. 

The holidays can be a magical time for everyone. Children have breaks from schools; families and friends gather for meals and multi-day celebrations; and emotions run hot. While the season brings joy and laughter for some, they can also be hard to manage – especially when co-parenting.  Yes co-parenting has its challenges on a good day, but throw in the holidays and it takes on a whole new level.

To make sure your holidays remain special for you and your children, it’s important to have a plan. Here are 5 tips to help you survive the holidays and set your loved ones up for a season of success.

  • Create a Parenting Plan

Since you and your spouse went through the formal divorce process, you likely have a parenting plan in place that also includes how the holidays are meant to be shared. If you feel that you need to make new arrangements this year and it is not your first time co-parenting during the holidays, do not save this for the last minute. A parenting plan is a legally-binding agreement and should be respectfully treated as such.

If you don’t have a parenting plan you may want to consider getting one. You can develop one informally if you are communicating well or you can have your attorney or mediator help create one for you. It’s a good idea for a parenting plan to have a system in place for how disputes should be handled if the situation arises, and a way in which parents can periodically review and make necessary changes to the plan. 

The plan may also include other provisions or information intended to help both parents understand and abide by the shared responsibilities in raising the child or children. Once you have it in place and on autopilot, you won’t have to stress over everything. Try one if you don’t already have one. It can make your life a lot easier.

  • Allow Flexibility

You’ve gone through a lot this year; trying to process divorce, finalize child support and navigate the co-parenting world – just to name a few. Add coronavirus to the mix, and you have yourself the perfect ending to a horrible year. COVID-19 has arisen many grey areas for families across the world, including parenting time schedules. Use your parenting plan as a tool to keep things focused, but while compromising might not be easy, it is an effective way to make things easier for your children, assuming they are only minor adjustments. For example, help yourself by giving your ex some wiggle room on logistics. A great rule of thumb is to plan at least 15 minutes of flex time around any child exchange. Depending on your location and the weather gets worse, you will need more flex time.

Consider having a civil conversation about what you both have in mind for the holidays and how time with the children can be shared with each of you and extended family members. Don’t wait until the last minute to begin the conversation. “The sooner the better” is in order to iron out any initial disagreements that could occur. 

Try to cooperate with each other during this emotionally-charged season and do what is needed for both you and your ex so that you can both spend happy, quality time with your children.

  • Stability is Key

Once you have made some logistical decisions, present a united front in telling the children together (if possible) what the plans are going to be. Make them feel that everything is worked out and it’s going to be a good holiday season because mom and dad have figured it out.

This will provide stability and comfort to your children. It will ease their anxiety and their concerns about mom and dad getting along during the holidays. Children think about holidays and how mom and dad are going to feel if they are alone. Give them peace of mind that everything will be okay even though you are no longer together.

  • Tolerate Difficult Circumstances (New Partners)

Divorce can be a painful and draining process. Be kind to yourself while going through your divorce. Many medical and mental health professionals recommend treating divorce like grief. There is happiness on the other side of all the legal and emotional issues, and the chances of your children feeling that pain are highly likely. If you or your ex are in the process of separating, try to not make small matters an issue. 

While the holidays can be a delicate time to test your tolerance, by doing so, you’ll look back without regret at handling these emotional issues maturely. Try to have an open discussion with each other about the role of a new significant other and how that will play in the lives of your children. Introducing a new partner is a big and important decision. Incorporating new partners into the family structure is delicate, especially during the holidays. With the help of an experienced family law attorney, you can receive sound advice on how to speak with your children so everyone involved is comfortable.

It’s important to remember to stay calm, the chances of your child remembering you losing your temper are high in the event that someone interferes with your plan. When something goes wrong, you can absolutely feel angry. The suggestion here is to try to have some patience, and focus on your child’s priorities.

  • Show Yourself Some Love

The holidays can be hard even for those who are not recently divorced, so do not begrudge yourself some self-care. There is a chance that you will spend some time alone this holiday season, and with Covid-19 variants looming, you could end up alone more than you expected.

Try to make some plans for yourself that do not involve the kids, even if it is just to sit at home on your own, binge-watching TV shows with your favorite takeaway meal. A little time to yourself can do wonders for your mood and help you get through the holidays with a little less stress. As much as you might want to make the holidays perfect for your kids, you cannot forget yourself. The happier you are, the smoother the holiday season will be them, too.

Last Thoughts

The holidays are meant to be a special time for everyone involved. And remember, having patience while trying to execute the holiday co-parenting plan is crucial to maintaining everyone’s enjoyment of the holidays. 

We hope with the help of these tips mentioned above, it can make way for you to navigate through your holidays in a seamless, appropriate and enjoyable manner. 

For more information on Divorce, Parenting Time, Allocation of Parental Responsibilities, Child Support and more, visit our website to talk to our experienced attorneys. With their in-depth knowledge and experience in Family Law, we’re sure to help you get through the holiday season together.