Navigating Divorce on Mother’s Day

As Mother’s Day approaches, moms going through a divorce may be experiencing sadness, loneliness, and guilt. However, the most important thing to remember is that it can also be painful for your children, but it doesn’t have to be. How can you move past these negative feelings and enjoy the celebration that you deserve? Plan new traditions!

Mother’s Day is a special occasion dedicated to honoring the mother figures in our lives for their love and selfless sacrifices. However, for mothers going through divorce, finding a balance through this transitional period can feel like an overwhelming and emotional challenge.

Approximately 50% of all children in the United States will witness the end of their parents’ marriage, underscoring the significant impact divorce can have on families. While divorce and separation have become more common over time, it also provides hope that affected individuals still thrive despite its challenges.

In this blog, we’ll explore strategies for navigating Mother’s Day, with tips for supporting your children, maintaining focus on what you can control, and how a family law attorney can help. Here’s what you need to know.

Understanding Children’s Emotions in Divorce

Divorce can be particularly challenging for children, and occasions like Mother’s Day may exacerbate many different emotions. Providing emotional support and creating a safe environment for your children to express themselves is crucial as a divorced parent. It’s important to recognize the signs of reactions exhibited by children, including:

  • Feelings of sadness and loss: Children may experience a sense of grief and mourn the loss of the intact family they once knew.
  • Anger and resentment: Children may express their frustration and anger over the divorce, often directed towards one or both parents.
  • Anxiety and insecurity: The stability and routine they once relied upon may be disrupted, leading to feelings of uncertainty and anxiety about their future. They may worry about their living arrangements, school changes, and how their relationships with their parents will be affected.
  • Academic and behavioral challenges: Divorce can impact a child’s educational performance and behavior. They may struggle to concentrate, exhibit aggression, withdraw, or act out to cope with their emotions.

Understanding the effects of divorce on children is crucial to providing them with the necessary support during this challenging time. Let’s look at how parental responsibilities and parenting time can be beneficial during this difficult transitional period.

Parental Responsibilities Tips for Mother’s Day

Parental responsibilities include two main items: parenting time (formerly “visitation”) and the power to make decisions for children. Parenting time is a schedule that shows when each parent spends time with the children. This schedule is created and approved by a judge in family court. If the parents can’t agree on the schedule, the judge will decide what’s best for the child and assign a schedule for the parents.

Parental responsibilities also refer to the decision-making obligations each parent will have on behalf of the child. Parents can agree to make these decisions together or divide them into categories, which should cover the following:

  • Education
  • Health
  • Religion
  • Extracurricular Activities

If the parents can’t agree on who gets what responsibility, the Illinois family court judge will allocate those responsibilities among them. Let’s dive into some tips to help you make co-parenting easier this Mother’s Day.

Review and Update Your Parenting Plan

One of the first steps in navigating Mother’s Day after a divorce is establishing clear guidelines for parental responsibilities. Crafting a parenting plan that addresses special occasions like Mother’s Day requires a well-thought-out agenda that can help alleviate confusion and minimize conflict. When creating a parenting plan for Mother’s Day, consider the following:

  • Alternating Years: Decide whether Mother’s Day will be alternated between parents each year or if there will be separate celebrations with each parent.
  • Flexibility: Be open to flexibility and compromise. Sometimes, unexpected circumstances may arise, and being willing to adjust plans accordingly can help benefit everyone involved.
  • Respect Boundaries: Respect each other’s boundaries and wishes regarding Mother’s Day celebrations. If one parent prefers to spend the day alone with the children, honor that request and find alternative ways to celebrate.

Try to maintain a united front regarding co-parenting decisions. Keeping children out of adult conflicts can help reassure them of your love and support.

Keep an Open Line of Communication

Effective communication with your co-parent can be key to successfully navigating Mother’s Day. While emotions may run high, maintaining a respectful and cooperative co-parenting relationship is essential for the well-being of your children. This partnership can help reassure children that special events can still be celebrated despite changes in the family dynamic.

Discuss plans for Mother’s Day to avoid last-minute conflicts or misunderstandings. Clearly outline expectations and responsibilities to help ensure a smooth celebration. Be willing to compromise and accommodate each other’s schedules and preferences. Remember that the focus should be on what’s best for the children, even if it means adjusting plans. 

Ways to Build New Family Traditions after Divorce

We’ve compiled a list of three, great ideas for newly divorced couples with families to create new traditions in the next chapter of their lives and the lives of their kids.

  • Plan Your Getaway: Starting a yearly vacation tradition with your family can be incredibly rewarding. You might opt to revisit a beloved destination annually, or perhaps you’ll gather everyone’s input to decide on a new adventure each year. This special time away gives everyone something to eagerly anticipate and offers a valuable opportunity to reconnect amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life.
  • Acknowledging Change: It’s unrealistic to expect life to remain unchanged post-divorce. Significant adjustments lie ahead, and it’s essential for everyone involved to recognize and accept this reality. However, this transition also presents an opportunity to establish new plans and traditions for the future. Clear communication about custody arrangements and upcoming events helps set expectations and fosters a sense of stability for all.
  • Embrace Flexibility: Flexibility can be a cornerstone of amicable divorces, though it can be challenging when tensions run high. Yet, being open to compromise can benefit everyone involved. For instance, offering to adjust your schedule to accommodate your ex-spouse’s plans for a special event demonstrates goodwill and may pave the way for reciprocal flexibility down the line.

Focus on What You Can Control This Mother’s Day

Finally, in navigating Mother’s Day after a divorce, it’s important to focus on what you can control and let go of what you cannot. While you may not be able to control your ex-partner’s actions or attitudes, you can control your response and behavior. Here’s how to focus on what you can control:

  • Practice Self-Care: Take care of yourself emotionally and physically before Mother’s Day. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether spending time with friends, practicing mindfulness, or pursuing a hobby.
  • Stay Present: Instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, focus on being present and enjoying your time with your children.
  • Seek Support: If you feel overwhelmed or emotional, lean on friends or family. Surround yourself with positive influences who can offer encouragement and perspective.

A family law attorney can offer guidance and legal advice to help you develop a plan that provides clarity and structure throughout the planning process. With a clear plan, you can aim for special celebrations filled with warmth and understanding.

How Masters Law Group Can Help

Navigating Mother’s Day after a divorce requires patience and a willingness to prioritize the well-being of your children above all else. At Masters Law Group, our family law attorneys focus on helping clients assert their rights to further the best interests of their children.

As a mom herself, Partner Erin E. Masters can empathize the pain moms must go through when navigating divorce proceedings, especially over Mother’s Day. To help mother’s across Illinois, Erin is also a court-appointed Child Representative with experience advocating for children in these high-conflict matters. Furthermore, Partner Anthony G. Joseph is an approved Guardian Ad Litem/Child Representatives list for the Domestic Relations Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.

With a strong focus on assisting clients in Chicago and Chicago’s Western Suburbs (Elmhurst, Hinsdale, DuPage, Oakbrook), we offer various services to help parents, children, and families through difficult times like divorce and allocation of parental responsibilities. If you face challenges navigating Mother’s Day after or during divorce and want to know your rights, don’t hesitate to reach out. Set up a complimentary consultation today.

Masters Law Group Welcomes New Associate, Catherine Brukalo

Masters Law Group proudly welcomes Catherine R. Brukalo as its newest family law associate. With a deep knowledge of the legal field, Mrs. Brukalo brings a wealth of experience to the firm.


About Catherine Brukalo

Catherine Brukalo holds a Bachelor of Arts degree from Northwestern University in Evanston, Illinois, and her Master of Arts from University College London in England. Mrs. Brukalo interned at the United States Consulate General in Krakow, Poland, during her time in London. There, she represented the Consulate to various private and governmental organizations. She earned recognition from the United States Ambassador to Poland, Christopher R. Hill.

Legal Experience and Contributions

Associate Attorney Catherine Brukalo

Catherine Brukalo

Mrs. Brukalo earned her Juris Doctorate from The John Marshall Law School in Chicago, Illinois. She would later begin her legal career as a Law Clerk under Supreme Court Rule 711 with the Cook County State’s Attorney. This helped her gain experience in a felony drug courtroom. Since then, she has represented clients in a variety of legal matters. These legal matters include:

  • Personal injury.
  • Wrongful death.
  • Professional Malpractice.
  • Probate.
  • Breach of contract claims.
  • Real estate transactions.
  • Domestic relations.

Mrs. Brukalo is actively involved in the legal community, having served in various capacities, such as a member of the Illinois State Bar Association, Advocates Society, McHenry County Bar Association, and Chicago Bar Association. She has received recognition for her contributions, including a Presidential Commendation from the ISBA President for her work on civics education and being named an Illinois Rising Star and Super Lawyer by Illinois Super Lawyers.

In addition to her legal prowess, Mrs. Brukalo is fluent in Polish and regularly publishes legal articles in a Chicago-based Polish-language newspaper. She is also trained in Mediation and Arbitration and holds certification as a Life Coach. She serves as a Director on the Board of the Niles Chamber of Commerce and Industry in Niles, Illinois.

Mrs. Brukalo’s primary focus at Masters Law Group is domestic relations, handling cases involving divorce, parentage, allocation of parental responsibilities, and child support. Her dedication to her clients and commitment to excellence make her a valuable asset to the firm.

About Masters Law Group

Recognized as one of the Best Law Firms in 2023 by Best Lawyers® and U.S. News & World Report, Masters Law Group is located in Chicago, Illinois, and handles family law matters in Cook County and surrounding areas. It concentrates on areas such as divorce, allocation of parental responsibilities, and other family law matters. Our lawyers, Erin E. Masters and Anthony Joseph have been recognized by prestigious publications numerous times. This not only speaks volumes about their work but also their character.

Working with Masters Law Group

At Masters Law Group, we’re committed to helping you achieve the best outcome in your case. Our attorneys possess unique knowledge, experience, and talent in family law and divorce. With over ten years of experience handling family law cases, we know how important it is for our clients to feel comfortable. That’s why we offer free consultations, where you can meet before deciding whether to hire us.

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Divorce vs. Mediation – Which Path is Right for You?

When deciding how to handle a divorce, it’s important to consider the benefits of traditional divorce versus mediation. Each approach has its benefits and drawbacks, so understanding the differences is key to making the right choice for you and your family. 

Divorce can be emotionally challenging no matter where you are in life. Masters Law Group, based in DuPage County, Illinois, with offices in downtown Chicago, is committed to helping couples navigate these tough decisions and offers a comprehensive approach to divorce resolution. Here’s what you need to know.

Understanding Divorce

Divorce involves each party retaining their attorney to represent their interests in court. This process can be adversarial, with a judge often making negotiations and decisions if the parties cannot agree. There are three major types of divorce: contested, uncontested, and civil union. 

Contested divorce occurs when there are contentions between spouses and requires numerous steps. An uncontested divorce occurs when there is agreement on all aspects of the divorce. Civil union divorce follows similar divorce processes, but the couple leaves the state where they were granted civil union. Let’s take a look at some pros and cons of divorce.

Divorce Litigation Pros:

  1. Legal Advocacy: Each spouse has dedicated legal representation to navigate the complexities of divorce laws and procedures.
  2. Court Intervention: A judge can resolve disputes when the couple cannot reach agreements on their own.
  3. Protection in High-Conflict Situations: In high-conflict cases, where emotions run extremely high or concerns about safety and abuse arise, litigation may provide a more structured and protective environment. Court orders can include provisions for restraining orders, protective orders, and supervised visitation to help ensure the safety of all parties involved.

Divorce Litigation Cons:

  1. Longer Resolution Process: Laws vary by state, and the process begins with how long one has lived in the state before filing for a divorce. The process can vary depending on the type of divorce. Contested divorces usually take over a year to finalize—although divorces can be completed in as little as three months.
  2. Impact on Children: The contentious nature of traditional divorce can have a negative impact on the children involved, potentially leading to increased stress and emotional difficulties.
  3. Lengthy Resolution of Disputes: Divorce can take longer to resolve disputes over issues like property division or allocation of parental responsibilities, further prolonging the overall process.

Understanding Divorce Mediation

Divorce mediation involves a neutral third-party mediator facilitating discussions between the spouses to reach mutually acceptable agreements. Unlike judges, a mediator cannot decide for you or your spouse. Their job is to keep you and your spouse focused on your needs and interests instead of faults.

When a couple begins divorce mediation, they choose the mediator in advance, or the court may appoint one. Both spouses provide documentation to support their viewpoints regarding disputed issues, while the mediator works with both sides to find a resolution. The mediator’s job is to reach an agreement between the two parties. Here are the pros and cons of divorce mediation.

Divorce Mediation Pros:

  1. Faster Resolution: Mediation often leads to a quicker resolution than a court-based divorce. Mediation sessions can be scheduled at the convenience of the parties involved, and they can work at their own pace, leading to a faster outcome.
  2. Reduced Conflict: Mediation often helps couples improve their communication skills and learn effective ways to resolve conflicts, which can lead to the resolution of family disputes.
  3. Reduced Post-Divorce Disputes: Because mediated agreements are reached through mutual understanding and cooperation, there may be fewer post-divorce disputes and a higher likelihood of compliance with the agreed-upon terms.

Divorce Mediation Cons:

  1. Voluntary Participation: Both parties must be willing to engage in meaningful negotiations for mediation to be successful.
  2. Potential Inequity: Without legal representation, one spouse may feel disadvantaged in negotiating legal and financial matters.
  3. Not Suitable for All Cases: Mediation may not be appropriate for high-conflict divorces or situations involving domestic abuse or significant power imbalances.

How a DuPage Divorce Attorney Can Help

Whether you choose traditional divorce or mediation, consulting with a skilled DuPage divorce attorney is crucial to protect your rights and interests. Masters Law Group’s divorce and mediation attorneys are fully prepared to advocate for you and your family. Here’s how our attorneys can help you:

  • Experienced Mediators: Erin E. Masters has been approved as a Mediator for the Cook County Domestic Relations Division and offers private mediation services. The firm’s mediation counselors have extensive experience in family law and are skilled in facilitating productive discussions between divorcing spouses.
  • Experienced Litigators: A skilled litigator has the experience to present your case effectively before the judge. They meticulously prepare legal arguments, gather evidence, and strategically plan to help secure your most favorable outcome.
  • Conflict Resolution: They are professionals in conflict resolution, focusing on finding peaceful solutions for both parties and their children.
  • Protecting Your Interests: Masters Law Group attorneys work to protect your legal rights and the best interests of you and your children.

Our senior attorneys, Erin E. Masters and Anthony G. Joseph, are highly esteemed professionals recognized by prestigious publications, including Best Lawyers, Super Lawyers, and Leading Lawyers. This highly esteemed recognition provides you with trustworthy guidance during your divorce process.

Moving Forward With Confidence

Divorce is a difficult journey, but couples in DuPage County and across Illinois can access professional help to make the process smoother for everyone involved. Masters Law Group offers guidance on divorce and mediation, helping you find the best path forward for you and your family. We aim to help you achieve a resolution, allowing everyone to move onwards with peace of mind.

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Every Parent’s Nightmare: International Parental Child Abduction

The thought of coming home from a long and hard day at the office only to discover that the unthinkable has happened – your foreign-born spouse has left the country and taken your child with them – is a devastating reality for a rising number of parents across the globe. If you are facing such a high-stakes and frightening scenario, here’s what you should know.

In this blog, we will explore five important pieces of information that help shed light on the legal, emotional, and practical aspects. Additionally, we’ll discuss how a child abduction attorney can be a lifeline in these challenging circumstances, offering advice and support throughout the process. 

1. Understanding International Parental Child Abduction

International parental child abduction occurs when one parent unlawfully takes their child from the other parent, often without legal authorization or against the court’s custody order. This act can lead to serious legal repercussions for the abducting parent. It’s crucial to recognize that parental child abduction constitutes a violation of both state and federal laws in many countries. 

There’s a common misconception that parental child abductions are less harmful because the child is with a parent or family member. However, legal systems typically view parental child abduction seriously, imposing consequences such as criminal charges, fines, and imprisonment for the abducting parent. Efforts are made to prioritize the child’s best interests and help ensure their safety in such circumstances.

2. Understanding its Impact on Families

According to the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, 230,600* children are kidnapped by a family member each year. Several factors may contribute to international parental child abduction, including parental responsibility disputes, domestic violence, fear of losing access to the child, or cultural differences regarding parental rights. Abductions can occur during or after divorce or separation, and the motivations can vary widely depending on the specific circumstances of each case.

When a child is taken, the emotional and psychological toll on them is profound. The sudden separation from one parent and the uncertainty of their well-being can lead to severe distress, affecting the child’s well-being and development for years to come. The abducting parent may face serious legal consequences, including criminal charges, fines, and the possibility of imprisonment. Moreover, their actions could significantly diminish their chances of obtaining parental responsibilities in future court proceedings. If you find yourself in this situation, getting help from a child abduction attorney can help you protect your child’s best interests.

3. Navigating International Parental Child Abduction Procedures

Being familiar with the legal procedures related to international parental child abduction is crucial for taking swift action. The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction is a key framework in addressing these cases.

The Hague Convention was enacted into law through the International Child Abduction Remedies Act (“ICARA”), which provides that a parent whose child has been wrongfully removed from or retained in the United States may petition for the child’s return to their country of habitual residence. This treaty involves over 91 countries and has designated Central Authorities from member countries to facilitate communication between nations handling abduction cases.

Child abduction attorneys with experience in international family law serve as valuable resources when navigating the Hague Convention. They can guide parents through the complexities of these procedures and help advocate for their children’s best interests.

4. Preventing Parental Child Abduction

Despite the existence of international treaties such as the Hague Convention, resolving cases of international parental child abduction can be challenging due to differing legal systems and varying interpretations of parental responsibilities. Some countries may not be part of the Hague Convention, making the recovery of abducted children more complex. Parents can take proactive steps to reduce the risk of abduction:

  • Establish a Parenting Plan: Without a parenting plan, no official documentation exists specifying where a child should be at any given time. This legal void can lead to situations where parents can, without repercussion, abandon their children or take them away without the explicit consent of the other parent, especially across international borders.
  • Document Parenting Arrangements: Keeping detailed records of parenting schedules can help resolve disputes and prevent the unauthorized removal of the child.
  • Establish Clear Communication: Maintain open and constructive communication with the other parent. Agree on communication methods and regular updates about the child’s well-being to foster trust and reduce conflict.

Consult a child abduction attorney to navigate complex legal situations across different jurisdictions. By taking proactive measures and staying informed, parents can significantly lower the risk of international parental child abduction and protect their children’s well-being.

5. How a Child Abduction Attorney Can Help

A child abduction attorney can be extremely helpful in cases involving the abduction of a child/children by one parent. When you partner with an experienced attorney, such as those at Masters Law Group, you gain the support needed to advocate for your family’s best interests. Here are some of the ways they can help:

Child abduction attorneys understand the emotional toll these cases can take on parents and children. With their help, you can better navigate the legal system and work toward a resolution protecting your family’s well-being.

Last Thoughts

International parental child abduction is a distressing reality faced by many families globally. The Hague Convention can be valuable for resolving abduction cases involving international borders and prioritizing their well-being. If you or someone you know is affected by this issue, seeking legal assistance and support is advised to navigate this area of international family law effectively. 

At Masters Law Group, our team of knowledgeable attorneys is here to help you through this process. Erin Masters and Anthony Joseph have extensive experience in cases involving international parental disputes in courts located in the State of Illinois and the United States federal court system. 

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Do Parental Responsibilities Fall Under The Hague Convention?

Parental responsibility cases can be emotionally challenging and legally complex, especially when situations arise that involve parental child abduction. When family disputes span across national or international borders, the Hague Convention can prove a valuable resource for the parent left behind.

While the main goal of the Hague Convention is to secure the prompt return of children wrongfully removed to or retained in any country (which is not the child’s country of habitual residence), it does not affect or impact the decision-making process regarding custody issues (allocation of parental responsibilities), nor does it focus on the underlying merits of a custody dispute. Rather, it determines under what circumstances a child should be returned to a country for custody proceedings under that country’s laws.

Understanding how this convention applies to parental responsibility cases is crucial for parents recently filing for divorce or separation who have international connections. Unfortunately, some parents never accept the divorce and purposely cause problems, sometimes by taking their child far away from the other parent. 

PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY AND PARENTING PLANS

In Illinois, the landscape of parental arrangements has evolved. “Allocation of Parental Responsibilities” includes the division of decision-making responsibility, previously known as “legal custody,” and parenting time, previously known as “visitation,” amongst the parties.  Parenting plans outline the schedule dictating a child’s interactions with each parent after a divorce or separation. 

Without a parenting plan, no official documentation exists specifying where a child should be at any given time. This legal void can lead to situations where parents can, without repercussion, abandon their children or take them away without the explicit consent of the other parent. In the state of Illinois, according to 720 ILCS Sec. 10-5(b)(6), a parent can abduct their child if, absent a custodial order/parenting plan, “knowingly conceals” a child “for 15 days and fails to make reasonable attempts within the 15 days to notify the other parent.” Let’s take a look at how Illinois grants custody.

HOW ILLINOIS GRANTS CUSTODY

Approximately 40% of states in the United States strive to provide equal custody time for both parents. Courts consider the child’s best interests when determining parenting arrangements. They aim to confirm that the child maintains a strong and healthy relationship with both parents.

They consider the child’s age, needs, and each parent’s ability to provide a safe environment. The court may select a mother over a father if the father negatively impacts the child or vice versa. Having clear guidelines and agreements can help establish stability and promote effective co-parenting. If you are a parent facing international parental child abduction, or feel your family is at risk of such an event, let’s look at how the Hague Convention could help.

“RIGHTS OF CUSTODY” UNDER THE HAGUE CONVENTION

As previously mentioned, the Convention does not affect or impact the decision-making process regarding custody issues (allocation of parental responsibilities), nor does it focus on the underlying merits of a custody dispute. However, it aims to secure the prompt return of children who have been wrongfully removed to or retained in any contracting state and distinguishes between the remedies available to protect “rights of custody” and “rights of access.”

  • “Rights of custody” includes rights relating to the care of the child and the right to determine the child’s place of residence.
  • “Rights of access” includes the right to take the child for a period of time – Article 5(a).

The Convention protects rights of access without an order of return, but in some circumstances, an “access parent” may be considered to hold rights of custody and thus be entitled to an order for the child’s return under the Convention.

PROTECTING PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES ACROSS BORDERS

The Hague Convention sets out clear procedures for determining where the child normally lives and dealing with wrongful removal or retention cases. Each country appoints central authorities to resolve disputes, and courts in both the child’s home country and the country where they’re in decide on the best course of action. 

If the Convention states if the removal or retention was wrongful, then the court must order the child returned to his or her habitual residence for a custody determination, unless the responding parent (the parent who removed or retained the child ) can establish one of the following:

  1. More than one year has passed since the wrongful removal or retention and the child is settled in his or her new environment
  2. The petitioning parent was not actually exercising custody rights at the time of the removal or retention
  3. The petitioning parent had consented to or subsequently acquiesced in the removal or retention
  4. The child objects to being returned and is of an age and maturity level at which it is appropriate to take account of his or her views
  5. There is a “grave risk” that the child’s return “would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation,” or
  6. The return of the child would be inconsistent with “fundamental principles … relating to the protection of human rights and fundamental freedoms.”

Overall, the Hague Convention helps maintain stability and consistency in parenting arrangements while protecting the rights of children and parents involved in cross-border disputes.

CHALLENGES TO CONSIDER

Parents often face hurdles when dealing with international parenting disputes. One of the most significant challenges is simply navigating another country’s legal system. This can involve language barriers, unfamiliar legal procedures, and cultural differences, making it difficult for parents to advocate for their rights effectively. 

Additionally, parents may struggle to locate and communicate with their children, especially if the other parent is hiding them. In some cases, parents may also face obstacles related to travel, such as visa restrictions or prohibitive travel costs. International parental responsibility cases can be highly stressful and emotionally taxing for parents. That’s why having the right support and guidance is essential throughout the process.

GETTING THE HELP YOU NEED

The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction can be a valuable resource for resolving abduction cases involving international borders, prioritizing their well-being. 

But to navigate these complex cases successfully, seeking legal counsel with knowledge and experience in Hague proceedings is extremely valuable. Erin Masters and Anthony Joseph have extensive experience in cases involving international parental disputes in courts located in the State of Illinois and the United States federal court system. 

Our profound understanding and proficiency with The Hague Convention on Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction (“The Hague Convention”), enacted into law through the International Child Abduction Remedies Act (“ICARA”), empowers us to help advocate thoroughly and effectively. 

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National Pet Day: Understanding Pet Custody Laws in Illinois

Navigating pet custody during divorce can be intricate, especially when our beloved pets are deeply intertwined with our family dynamics. As we celebrate National Pet Day on April 11th, it serves as a poignant reminder of the unique connection we share with our furry friends. Nevertheless, divorce often stirs intense emotions, further complicating an already delicate circumstance.

As attitudes toward pets evolve, so do the laws governing their custody in divorce cases. In Illinois, courts recognize the profound significance of pets in family life and consider their well-being when determining custody arrangements. Navigating these legal intricacies can be daunting, which is why seeking the guidance of a compassionate divorce attorney can be essential.

Join us as we explore the evolving landscape of pet custody in Illinois and how a divorce attorney can be crucial for protecting the best interests of your beloved furry companions.

THE CHANGING LANDSCAPE OF PET CUSTODY

Traditionally, pets were treated as personal property in divorce proceedings, subject to division, and other assets such as cars and furniture. However, many pet owners found this approach inadequate, as it needed to consider the emotional bond between humans and their animal companions.

71% of domestic violence victims reported that their abuser also targeted pets. In one study of families under investigation for suspected child abuse, researchers found that pet abuse had occurred in 88% of the families under supervision for physical abuse of their children.

Recognizing this, several states, including Illinois, have adopted laws that allow courts to consider the pet’s best interests when determining pet custody arrangements. While pets are still technically considered property under the law, judges now have the discretion to award custody based on factors such as who primarily cares for the pet, who can provide a stable living environment, and the relationship between the pet and each spouse.

UNDERSTANDING PET CUSTODY IN ILLINOIS

Pet custody is a significant consideration in Illinois divorce cases. When spouses cannot agree, the court decides based on various factors. Unlike parental responsibilities, no strict guidelines lead to varied outcomes. Disputes over pets like dogs and cats are common in divorces. 

The Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage Act addresses custody-like provisions for family pets, also known as ‘companion animals.’ These pets are treated as marital assets. However, it’s essential to note that not all pets fall under this category. The specific provisions may not cover pets such as reptiles, birds, or small mammals for companion animals. Ownership may be determined based on general property division principles rather than considering the pet’s well-being.

Factors determining pet ownership include:

  • Who adopted the pet.
  • Day-to-day caregiving.
  • Each spouse’s ability to care for the pet.
  • Any emotional attachments to the pet.
  • Any ownership agreements for the pet.

The owner retains sole ownership if the court deems the pet a non-marital asset. If it’s a marital asset, ownership is allocated based on the pet’s well-being. It’s important to note that while courts may consider the pet’s best interests, their primary concern is still the parties’ welfare. Fortunately, Illinois law recognizes that pets hold a special place in families and takes their well-being seriously when determining ownership during divorce proceedings.

HOW DOES THE COURT CONSIDER THE “WELL-BEING” OF THE PET?

It’s worth noting that, unlike the allocation of parental responsibilities, pet custody in Illinois is not based on the pet’s “best interests.” Suppose one spouse can demonstrate that they have been mainly responsible for the daily care and well-being of the pet, including feeding, grooming, and providing medical care. In that case, the court is more likely to award ownership to that spouse.

If you want to retain ownership of your pet after a divorce, it’s important to have evidence that shows your involvement in the pet’s life. This can include photographs and receipts for pet-related expenses such as veterinary bills. These documents show the court your commitment to caring for the pet and the bond you share with them.

It’s important to note that courts may consider parental responsibilities and parenting time when determining pet ownership during a divorce. Children often share a strong bond with family pets, and a spouse can argue that most parenting time could be affected. If spouses can’t agree on pet ownership, they may need to go to court to have a judge decide. Couples can mediate pet disputes when a divorce case doesn’t go to court. Regardless of the approach chosen, finding a solution that suits one’s specific circumstances is critical.

HOW A DIVORCE ATTORNEY CAN HELP

Navigating pet custody issues in divorce cases can be emotionally charged and legally complex. A divorce attorney can provide valuable assistance in protecting your pet’s rights. At Masters Law Group, you can confidently navigate the complexities of divorce and reduce stress. Your rights and the well-being of your family are our top priorities. Here are some ways our divorce attorneys can help:

  1. Negotiation and Mediation: Pet custody disputes can be resolved through negotiation or mediation outside of court. Your attorney can help advocate during these discussions to reach a mutually acceptable agreement that prioritizes your pet’s well-being.
  2. Court Representation: A skilled attorney is essential if negotiations fail and your case proceeds to court. Your attorney will present evidence and arguments to support your position, helping increase your chances of a favorable outcome in the judge’s eyes.
  3. Gathering Evidence: Your divorce attorney can assist you in gathering evidence to support your claim to pet ownership. This may include documentation of your involvement in the pet’s care, such as veterinary records, receipts for pet-related expenses, and witness statements attesting to your relationship with the pet.
  4. Addressing Parenting Time Concerns: If children are involved, a divorce attorney can help address concerns about how pet custody arrangements may impact parenting time. They can work to find solutions that prioritize both the children’s and the pet’s well-being.
  5. Emotional Support: A divorce involving pet custody can be emotionally challenging. Your attorney can provide compassionate support and guidance throughout the process, helping you navigate the difficult decisions and emotions.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Pets are uniquely positioned in divorce proceedings, representing shared property and emotional connections between spouses. Navigating the complexities of determining their custody and care can be challenging and emotionally charged. That’s why it’s crucial to have strong legal representation to assert your rights regarding pet ownership in an Illinois divorce.

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Divorce and Sexual Assault

April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month, shedding light on a sensitive topic often surrounded by silence and stigma. Within the broader context of family law, divorce can intersect with issues of family violence and sexual assault, requiring delicate legal handling. 

Nationwide, 81% of women and 43% of men reported experiencing some form of sexual harassment and assault in their lifetime. The effects of sexual assault and harassment can cause physical harm and emotional wounds that are endured for years.

In such instances, seeking assistance from a family law attorney can prove crucial for navigating the complexities of divorce and obtaining necessary protection orders. In today’s blog, we will explore the significance of legal support in these situations and how it can empower individuals to protect themselves and their families. Here’s what you need to know.

THE ROLE OF SEXUAL ASSAULT AWARENESS MONTH

Sexual Assault Awareness Month serves the critical purposes of shedding light on the severity of domestic violence, debunking myths, and dispelling stereotypes. Through education about the signs and impacts of abuse, individuals gain the tools to recognize and address it effectively. This month reinforces the message that survivors have support and resources.

Moreover, Sexual Assault Awareness Month underscores the importance of prevention through community engagement and educational initiatives. It encourages discussions about healthy relationships, consent, and bystander intervention. Let’s learn more about domestic violence and how it can be prevented.

WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

Domestic violence/domestic abuse is typically manifested as a pattern of abusive behavior toward an intimate partner in a dating or family relationship, where the abuser exerts power and control over the victim. Domestic abuse can be mental, physical, economic or sexual in nature.

Regrettably, domestic violence transcends boundaries and can affect individuals of any gender, race, or socioeconomic status. Its wide-ranging repercussions impact not only the immediate victims but also the children who witness such abuse.

The Illinois Domestic Violence Act (IDVA) identifies several forms of abuse, including:

  1. Physical abuse (including sexual abuse)
  2. Harassment
  3. Intimidation of a dependent
  4. Interference with personal liberty
  5. Willful deprivation
  6. Exploitation
  7. Stalking

The warning signs of abuse may not manifest immediately and can evolve as the relationship progresses. However, it’s important to recognize that each relationship is unique, and domestic violence can manifest in various forms. One common trait among abusive relationships is the abuser’s attempt to establish power and control through various methods at different stages. Fortunately, there are strategies available to help protect you from this abuse.

ORDERS OF PROTECTION: A VITAL LIFELINE

Divorce proceedings can intensify tensions within a relationship, potentially worsening existing instances of family violence or leading to new forms of abuse. Additionally, survivors may disclose incidents of sexual assault during this tumultuous period. It’s crucial to recognize that survivors of sexual assault may face heightened vulnerability during divorce proceedings, often encountering threats, coercion, or manipulation from their abuser.

Fortunately, Orders of Protection (restraining orders) serve as a legal mechanism to shield survivors of family violence and sexual assault from further harm. These court orders can establish boundaries, prohibit contact, and provide security for individuals and their children. Survivors need to know that they do not have to face this process alone. Getting an order of protection requires a comprehensive understanding of legal procedures, evidence requirements, and advocacy skills.

A family law attorney can help provide legal resources and support services to assist in navigating an order of protection. By seeking the assistance of a compassionate and dedicated legal team, survivors can take crucial steps towards reclaiming their autonomy and finding security and peace of mind.

IF CHILDREN ARE INVOLVED

Unlike allegations of domestic violence, accusations of sexual abuse, particularly child molestation, are typically not made lightly. Such accusations are infrequent and receive intense scrutiny. The courts typically respond by appointing a Guardian ad Litem to investigate, with an expectation that the accusing parent has made every effort to investigate, document, and halt the sexual misconduct as soon as suspicion arose.

If accusations of sexual abuse, especially concerning children, arise within your marriage, immediate arrangements for a medical examination of the victim or alleged victim, even if that victim is yourself, are imperative. Subsequently, contacting an attorney should be a priority. Taking swift action can be pivotal in establishing the truth in court.

THE ROLE OF A FAMILY LAW ATTORNEY

In the face of such challenges, the guidance of a knowledgeable family law attorney can be valuable. Family law attorneys have experience in navigating the complexities of divorce cases involving family violence and sexual assault. At Masters Law Group, we aim to protect you and your children’s best interests. Here are some of the areas that we can help you navigate: 

  • Parenting Time: If you have children, work closely with your attorney to determine the best parenting time plan. This helps to ensure that the agreed-upon arrangements prioritize your children’s well-being and best interests.
  • Mediation: Explore options such as mediation or collaborative divorce to help you and your ex-spouse reach mutually beneficial agreements outside of court. Your family law attorney can help guide you through these processes and represent your best interests during negotiations.
  • Post-divorce disputes: After the divorce is finalized, circumstances may require modifications to allocating parental responsibilities, visitation, or support arrangements. Stay in touch with your attorney to address any changes or issues that may arise in the future.
  • Orders of Protection: In cases where an order of protection is granted, attorneys monitor compliance and take swift action against any violations. This proactive approach reinforces the efficacy of legal measures and prioritizes the safety of survivors and their families.

In addition to representing clients, Senior Partner Erin E. Masters is also a court-appointed Child Representative and has experience advocating for children in these high-conflict matters.  Furthermore, Senior Partner Anthony G. Joseph is also on the list of approved Guardian Ad Litem/Child Representatives for the Domestic Relations Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.

Remember, during this challenging period, Masters Law Group is here to support you and your legal rights. Working with our trusted attorneys can help alleviate the stress associated with domestic disputes, helping ensure a smoother transition for both you and your children.

COMMUNITY RESOURCES

In Chicago, there is a wide range of community resources available to support survivors of sexual assault. The Domestic Violence Legal Clinic provides legal assistance and advocacy services, helping ensure survivors can access legal remedies. The Chicago Metropolitan Battered Women’s Network serves as a comprehensive resource hub, connecting survivors to various shelters, counseling, and legal aid services throughout the city.

Hospitals like the YWCA Metropolitan Chicago also provide comprehensive medical care and forensic exams for survivors seeking immediate assistance. These community resources play a vital role in supporting survivors to help them heal and seek justice in the aftermath of sexual assault.

LAST THOUGHTS

As we observe Sexual Assault Awareness Month, it’s crucial to recognize the intersection of divorce, family violence, and sexual abuse. Shedding light on these issues can empower survivors to take proactive steps toward safety and justice. 

At Masters Law Group, our skilled family law attorneys are here to help navigate the complexities of divorce while prioritizing the well-being of survivors and their families. Let us strive to create a society where survivors are heard, supported, and empowered,

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