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Meet Anthony G. Joseph / Partner at Masters Law Group

At Masters Law Group, we are excited to spotlight our talented team, sharing professional journeys, areas of practice, and personal insights into what drives them to help clients navigate their legal family law challenges.

Today, we proudly introduce Anthony G. Joseph, Partner at Masters Law Group and a highly respected international family law attorney. Concentrating on complex family law matters, including divorce and international child abduction, Anthony is known for his unwavering commitment to achieving favorable outcomes for his clients. His deep experience and client-centered approach have earned him a stellar reputation in family law.

Introducing Anthony G. Joseph of Masters Law Group

At Masters Law Group, Anthony G. Joseph is recognized for his sharp legal insight, tenacity, and compassionate approach. He skillfully guides clients through cross-border family law disputes and complex divorce proceedings. His experience in these areas sets him apart, making him a vital asset to the firm and the families it serves. 

Anthony earned his Bachelor of Arts in Global Economic Relations from the University of the Pacific in Stockton, California. He later obtained his Juris Doctor and a Certificate in Trial Advocacy from The John Marshall Law School in Chicago, Illinois. During law school, Anthony was an active member of the Family Law Society, which allowed him to develop key skills in negotiation, mediation, and litigation. These experiences laid a strong foundation for his future success in family law, equipping him to handle the complex challenges that arise in high-stakes cases.

Anthony was admitted to the Illinois Bar in November 2010. In his career, he found his passion in family law, recognizing the vital role of advocating for the well-being of families and children. His dedication to the field led to his admission to the Federal General Bar and Trial Bar for the United States District Court for the Northern District of Illinois and the Eastern District of Wisconsin. This expanded his ability to represent clients in federal court.

Areas of Experience

Today, Mr. Joseph is a seasoned trial attorney focused exclusively on family law. He particularly emphasizes international child abduction and cross-border custody disputes under the Hague Convention and the Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA). His practice encompasses a wide range of legal matters, including:

  • Divorce and Legal Separation: Anthony G. Joseph is a skilled divorce attorney who helps clients navigate the complexities of divorce, from asset division to post-divorce disputes.
  • Parental Responsibilities Support: Anthony’s core work is protecting the child’s best interests. He is experienced in handling child custody cases (parental responsibilities) involving relocation and international issues.
  • Hague Convention Cases: Anthony has built a strong reputation for his work on Hague Convention cases, representing parents involved in international child abduction disputes. Understanding international treaties and family law makes him a go-to attorney for these highly sensitive and intricate cases.
  • Post-Decree Modifications: Anthony assists clients with modifications to divorce or separation, helping ensure that changes in circumstances are addressed and updated accordingly.

Anthony’s deep knowledge of these areas and his ability to empathize with his clients help ensure that every case is handled carefully and precisely. He aims to help families reach resolutions in their best interests while minimizing litigation’s emotional toll.

A Client-Centered Approach to Family Law

Anthony’s approach to family law is defined by his dedication to clients. He understands that every case is unique and requires a tailored approach. He takes the time to listen to his clients, understand their goals, and provide them with clear, honest legal advice. This compassionate approach helps clients feel supported throughout the legal process.

At the same time, Anthony is a fierce advocate in the courtroom. He has a proven track record of success in litigation, particularly divorce cases, international custody disputes, and complex asset division. Anthony believes in empowering his clients with knowledge. He helps clients understand their legal rights and options, allowing them to make informed decisions about their future. This educational approach is one of the many reasons clients feel confident and secure when working with Anthony.

Notable Cases and Achievements

Anthony G. Joseph’s extensive experience with Hague Convention cases has established him as a highly regarded attorney in international family law. He has a deep understanding of international law and is committed to protecting the rights of parents and children. His strategic thinking and thorough understanding of U.S. and international family law played crucial roles in this case’s successful resolution. 

In addition to his legal victories, Anthony has received numerous accolades for his work in family law. He has received distinctions such as an “A.V.” Preeminent Rating from Martindale-Hubbell Peer Review, the highest peer review rating available. He has also been named a “Rising Star” by Illinois Super Lawyers for his exceptional work.

Most recently, Anthony was honored as a New Fellow of the International Academy of Family Lawyers (IAFL), a prestigious global organization of legal professionals recognized as family law specialists by their peers. This recognition further solidified his reputation as a top attorney in international family law. 

Client Testimonials

We encourage you to read some of our recent client reviews on their first-hand experience with Mr. Joseph below:

Masters Law Group takes its time on how to approach your case. They are very responsive and will listen to any and all concerns. Anthony is great to work with! –M.C.

Anthony was wonderful to work with. He was straightforward, relentless & professional. –D.E

Anthony is a real straight shooter and does not mince words, which I absolutely appreciate in this miserable process. They go above and beyond for you and your children and for what is right. Masters Law Group never gave up the fight, and for that I will forever be grateful. –A.B

Thank you to Masters Law Group for success in my divorce and custody case. Anthony specifically worked on my case and ensured that my rights were protected and the allocations [were] fair. – M.R

I was very overwhelmed and worried about what the future would bring, but Anthony and his team made me feel heard and valued. Every interaction was filled with genuine empathy and kindness. I couldn’t have asked for better guidance, support, and a wealth of knowledge. Highly recommend! – M.E.

I highly recommend Anthony Joseph and Masters Law Group LLC. Anthony showed compassion and professionalism. Our Hague Convention case didn’t even reach the courts, thanks to Anthony’s phenomenal advice and knowledge. I will highly recommend him for family matters and Hague Convention cases. –J.D

Anthony is an incredible lawyer who not only makes you feel super safe but has your back the whole time and will be there for you each step of the way during such a difficult process. He’s heartfelt and loyal and I would recommend his services to anyone who wants the best attorney on their side! –V.P

Masters Law Group was able to find a solution to my problem when other lawyers could not. Great communications from the staff at Masters Law Group as well as from Mr. Anthony Joseph. I’ve learned that family law can be a challenge to many, including myself, but I know I can rely on the lawyers from this legal firm if I need to again. –C.R

Commitment to the Community Best Chicago Divorce Attorney 2024

Anthony G. Joseph is deeply committed to giving back to the community outside the courtroom. He represents individuals and families who may not otherwise have access to quality legal services. His dedication to helping others extends beyond his professional obligations, reflecting his belief in using his skills to make a positive impact.

Anthony is also actively involved in continuing legal education, often speaking at conferences and seminars on family law, international custody disputes, and the Hague Convention. He is passionate about staying at the forefront of legal developments in his field. This helps ensure he is always prepared to provide his clients with the most up-to-date and effective legal strategies.

Connect With Anthony G. Joseph

Clients who choose Anthony G. Joseph as their family law attorney can expect dedicated, personalized legal representation. He is known for his ability to handle cases with professionalism and compassion. Whether navigating the challenges of divorce or addressing the legal complexities of international child abduction, Anthony brings experience and a commitment to achieving the best possible outcome.

At Masters Law Group, Anthony works alongside a team of skilled attorneys who share his dedication to providing exceptional legal services. Together, they offer clients legal support in all areas of family law, helping ensure their needs are met at every stage of the legal process.

In the meantime, if you want to learn more about Anthony or schedule a consultation, please visit our website at Masters Law Group.

Understanding Illinois Visitation and Allocation of Parental Responsibilities

Understanding parental responsibilities and parenting time in Illinois is essential for anyone navigating a divorce or separation involving children.

The traditional terms ‘custody’ and ‘visitation’ have evolved into ‘parental responsibilities’ and ‘parenting time.’ This reflects a child-centered approach, helping to emphasize shared responsibilities over control. These laws prioritize the child’s best interests and outline each parent’s roles and duties.

While navigating this legal landscape can be challenging, having the right support can help you confidently manage these responsibilities and protect your family’s future. Whether you’re working through a cooperative agreement or facing a contentious situation, having a knowledgeable advocate by your side makes all the difference. Masters Law Group is here to guide you through this critical time. Here’s what you need to know.

What Are Parental Responsibilities in Illinois?

Parental responsibilities include two main categories: 1) Allocation of responsibilities (legal custody) and 2) Parenting time (visitation). Parenting time is a schedule that shows when each parent spends time with the children. This schedule is created and approved by a judge in family court. If the parents can’t agree on the schedule, the judge will decide what’s best for the child and assign a schedule for the parents.

Allocation of parental responsibilities refers to the decision-making obligations each parent will have on behalf of the child. Parents can agree to make these decisions together or divide them into categories, which should cover the following:

  • Education
  • Health
  • Religion
  • Extracurricular Activities

If the parents cannot agree to divide these responsibilities, an Illinois family court judge will allocate them. Let’s examine the three types of parental responsibilities.

Types of Parental Responsibility Allocations

In Illinois, there are three primary types of parental responsibility allocations:

  • Joint Allocation: Both parents share decision-making responsibilities in major areas of the child’s life. It does not necessarily mean equal parenting time but requires cooperation between parents.
  • Sole Allocation: One parent can make all significant child welfare decisions. The other parent still maintains parenting time unless otherwise restricted.
  • Shared Allocation: Similar to joint allocation, but generally applies when the child spends equal time with both parents and resides within the same school district.

Determining Parental Responsibilities

Parental responsibilities are determined with the primary goal of serving the child’s best interests. The court takes a comprehensive approach, considering various factors to help ensure that the final decision supports the child’s well-being and development. Key factors the court considers include:

  • The child’s wishes (depending on age and maturity).
  • The mental and physical health of all parties.
  • The relationship between the child and each parent.
  • The child’s adjustment to home, school, and community.
  • Any history of violence or abuse in the household.

It’s important to note that Illinois law does not automatically favor mothers over fathers. Both parents are considered equally, and responsibilities are allocated based on what will best serve the child’s interests.

Modifications of Parental Responsibilities

Life changes and parenting plans may need to change as well. If significant circumstances arise, such as relocation, shifts in the child’s needs, or changes in a parent’s lifestyle, modifying the existing parenting plan may become necessary. Illinois courts are open to adjusting parental responsibilities when such modifications serve the child’s best interests.

Common Reasons for Modifications:

  • Changes in the Child’s Needs: If the child’s physical, emotional, or educational needs evolve, adjustments may be necessary.
  • Alterations in a Parent’s Living Situation: Significant changes, such as relocation, job loss, or health issues, can impact a parent’s ability to fulfill their responsibilities.
  • Shifts in the Child’s Relationship with a Parent: Modifications may be warranted if the child’s bond with one parent has significantly strengthened or weakened.

Parenting Time: Understanding the Basics

Parenting time is the schedule that dictates when the child will spend time with each parent. It focuses on the child’s day-to-day experiences and maintaining a stable routine. While both parties typically agree upon this, the court can step in when necessary to establish an arrangement that supports the child’s best interests. When one parent fails to comply with the parenting schedule, legal enforcement can help maintain stability for the child. Enforcement actions may include:

  • Penalties: The court may impose fines or require the non-compliant parent to cover legal fees.
  • Mediation: Mandated sessions may help resolve disputes and encourage cooperation.
  • Makeup Parenting Time: Granting additional time to compensate for missed visits due to non-compliance.

If you have any legal questions or concerns about modifying or enforcing a parenting plan, it’s essential to consult with an experienced family law attorney. They can provide tailored advice and represent your best interests throughout the process.

Key Differences Between Parental Responsibilities and Parenting Time

When navigating parenting arrangements, “Allocation of Parental Responsibilities” and “Parenting Time” define a parent’s involvement in their child’s life. While both are critical, they address different aspects of parenting following a separation or divorce. Here’s how they differ:

  1. Decision-Making vs. Time Spent: Allocation of parental responsibilities focuses on who makes key decisions about the child’s upbringing, whereas parenting time pertains to the schedule of physical time spent with each parent.
  2. Legal vs. Physical Custody: Parental responsibilities involve legal rights regarding decision-making, while parenting time refers to where and when the child spends time with each parent.
  3. Shared vs. Sole Arrangements: Both parental responsibilities and parenting time can be shared or allocated to one parent, depending on what’s best for the child.

Understanding these distinctions empowers parents to navigate parenting plans more effectively and reach agreements prioritizing their child’s well-being. Partnering with a family law attorney can provide the guidance needed to manage these complexities confidently.

How Masters Law Group Can Help

Navigating the complexities of Illinois parental responsibilities can be challenging, but you don’t have to do it alone. Masters Law Group is experienced in handling family law cases, including those involving parental responsibilities. Here’s how we can help:

  1. Legal Guidance: We provide clear, informed advice to help you understand your rights and obligations under Illinois law.
  2. Tailored Strategies: Every family is unique, and we work closely with you to develop a parenting plan that best meets your child’s needs while protecting your parental rights.
  3. Mediation and Negotiation: Whenever possible, we aim to resolve disputes amicably through mediation, minimizing stress and preserving relationships.
  4. Court Representation: If your case requires litigation, we have the experience to represent you effectively in court and advocate for your child’s best interests.
  5. Post-Decree Modifications: We can assist with modifying parenting plans if your circumstances change and help ensure that any modifications are legally sound and in your child’s best interest.

Final Thoughts

The allocation of parental responsibilities helps ensure that both parents play a meaningful role in their child’s life, prioritizing the child’s well-being above all. At Masters Law Group, we know how overwhelming this process can be. That’s why we’re dedicated to providing you with the knowledgeable legal guidance needed to make informed decisions. Let us help you protect your rights and your child’s future.

Contact us today to learn more or to schedule a consultation.

Meet Erin E. Masters: Partner / Family Law Mediator

Concentrating on domestic relations, including divorce, allocation of parental responsibilities, child support, and international child abduction matters, Ms. Masters is consistently recognized and trusted by regulated authorities such as Super Lawyers, Best Lawyers, Leading Lawyers, and Emerging Lawyers.

We are excited to kick off our new blog series which will introduce you to the talented members of Masters Law Group. In each post, we will spotlight an attorney from our team, sharing their professional journey, areas of expertise, and personal insights into what drives them to help clients navigate their legal challenges. Today, we are proud to introduce Erin E. Masters, founding partner of Masters Law Group and a highly respected attorney in the field of family law.

Chicago Divorce Attorney

Introducing Erin E. Masters of Masters Law Group

Erin E. Masters has dedicated her career to guiding families through some of the most challenging times of their lives. Her extensive experience and compassionate approach have earned her recognition as one of the leading family law attorneys across Chicagoland.

Erin’s legal journey began with a Bachelor of Arts degree from Indiana University, where she excelled in her studies and developed a passion for advocating for others. She went on to earn her Juris Doctor from The John Marshall Law School, now part of the University of Illinois Chicago School of Law, where she was actively involved in various legal organizations and honed her skills in litigation and negotiation.

After law school, Erin immersed herself in the practice of family law, quickly gaining a reputation for her dedication to her clients and her ability to navigate complex legal issues with empathy and precision. She is particularly known for her work in high-conflict child custody cases (parental responsibilities), where her strategic thinking and commitment to the child’s best interests shine through.

A Deep Commitment to Family Law

Throughout her career Ms. Masters has represented a variety of clients, both pre-decree and post-decree. Additionally she has prepared Prenuptial Agreements, drafted Marital Settlement Agreements and Final Allocation of Parental Responsibilities Orders, as well as prosecuted and defended Orders of Protection. Ms. Masters has also successfully litigated matters concerning modification and enforcement of child support, allocation of parental responsibilities and parenting time.

Erin’s dedication to family law goes beyond her role as an attorney. She is deeply committed to protecting the rights of parents and children, and her work often involves advocating for those who may not have a voice in the legal process. Whether she’s helping a parent navigate the complexities of international custody disputes or providing counsel during a high-stakes divorce, Erin approaches every case with the same level of care and professionalism.

Her expertise in The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction is particularly notable. Erin has successfully represented clients in both domestic and international child abduction cases, making her a sought-after advocate for parents dealing with the heart-wrenching reality of cross-border custody disputes. Her experience in this specific area of law enables her to provide strategic guidance that protects her clients’ rights while working toward the safe return of children.

Approved Mediator & Child Representative

Erin’s divorce and family law experience means she can offer insights and alternative opportunities to deal with family disputes that lead to much happier, healthier results: Mediation.

Erin E. Masters has been approved as a Mediator for the Cook County Domestic Relations Division and offers private mediation services. As such, Masters Law Group provides mediation services and also represent clients involved in mediation. If you are looking to settle your family law matter without court intervention, contact Masters Law Group to schedule a mediation appointment.

In addition to representing clients, Ms. Masters is also a court-appointed Child Representative and has experience advocating for children in these high-conflict matters. Further, she has also been appointed by the Circuit Court of Cook County to mediate complex family law cases, especially those involving children.

Recognized Excellence and Advocacy

Throughout her career, Erin has been recognized for her outstanding legal skills and her commitment to her clients. She has been honored by Super Lawyers, an accolade that highlights her as one of the top attorneys in her field, and she is frequently sought out for her expert opinion on family law matters. Erin’s success can be attributed to her relentless pursuit of excellence, her deep understanding of the law, and her unwavering commitment to her clients’ needs.

Best Chicago Divorce Attorney 2024

In addition to her legal practice, Erin is a strong advocate for continued education and training in family law. She regularly attends conferences and workshops to stay current with the latest developments in her field, ensuring that she can provide the most up-to-date and effective representation for her clients. Erin’s dedication to learning and growth extends to her role as a mentor to younger attorneys, where she shares her knowledge and encourages the next generation of legal professionals.

Approach to Client Care

What sets Erin apart is her compassionate approach to client care. She understands that family law issues are deeply personal and often emotionally charged, and she takes the time to listen to her clients, understand their unique situations, and develop legal strategies tailored to their specific needs. Erin’s goal is to empower her clients with the information and support they need to make informed decisions about their futures.

Erin believes that effective communication is key to successful legal representation. She strives to maintain open and honest communication with her clients, keeping them informed about the progress of their cases and providing clear explanations of their legal options. Her approachable demeanor and commitment to transparency help clients feel confident and supported throughout the legal process.

Testimonials

We encourage you to read some of our recent client reviews on their first-hand experience with Ms. Masters below.

Erin is by far the best and most professional family law attorney that I have known. She is exceptional in her field of practice, honest and gets the job done. -R.P

Erin Masters is someone who is truly on your side. She was always willing to answer any of my questions or explain “lawyer language” to me. I highly recommend Masters Law Group. -N. J

Erin Masters was my divorce lawyer, and during the entire process, she remained focused and was there for me every step of the way. I highly recommend [Masters Law Group] as they surpassed my expectations in every aspect. – S.B

I highly recommend Erin Masters and Masters Law Group. My experience has been that the services rendered were not only knowledgeable and skilled but also equitable, compassionate, and sensitive. – C.A

Erin Masters helped me with my child support case. It was a tough case, but she fought for what was in my daughter’s best interest, honestly and professionally.

I trust her 110%. She has my highest recommendation! -D.H

Erin Masters helped make the divorce process as easy as possible, considering the situation. She was compassionate and caring when I was going through such an emotionally difficult time. -M.B

Erin [Masters] helped me bring an end to a three year long divorce with a person that insisted on fighting over every little detail. You cannot find better representation. -P.B

I needed a lawyer to help me through my parental responsibilities case. I researched hundreds of lawyers in the area and finally found Erin. She fought hard, and I felt like we came out on top every time. – K.C

Balancing Work and Life

Outside of the courtroom, Erin is a dedicated wife and mother, and active member of her community. She understands the challenges of balancing a demanding career with family responsibilities, and she brings this perspective into her practice. Erin’s ability to empathize with her clients on a personal level helps her connect with them in a meaningful way, providing not just legal guidance but also emotional support during what can be a very difficult time.

Erin is also passionate about giving back to her community. She is involved in various charitable organizations and often participates in pro bono work, using her skills to assist those who might not otherwise have access to legal representation. This commitment to service reflects Erin’s belief in the importance of helping others and making a positive impact in her field.

Looking Ahead: Erin’s Vision for Family Law

Erin’s vision for the future of family law is one that prioritizes the well-being of families and promotes fair, equitable outcomes. She is committed to advocating for changes in the legal system that better protect children and support parents through the legal process. Erin’s goal is to continue to provide high-quality, compassionate legal services to her clients while helping to shape the future of family law in a way that reflects the evolving needs of families today.

As Erin continues her work at Masters Law Group, she remains dedicated to her clients and her mission of providing exceptional legal representation. Her expertise, compassion, and unwavering commitment to justice make her an invaluable asset to her clients and a respected leader in the field of family law.

Connect with Erin E. Masters

If you or someone you know is facing a family law issue in DuPage County, Cook County or across the Greater Chicago area, Erin E. Masters and the team at Masters Law Group are here to guide you every step of the way. With a client-centered approach and a track record of success, Erin is dedicated to providing the legal support you need to navigate even the most challenging situations.

Stay tuned for the next post in our Meet the Team series, where we’ll introduce you to another outstanding attorney at Masters Law Group. In the meantime, if you would like to learn more about Erin or schedule a consultation, please visit our website at Masters Law Group.

 

     

Supporting Children Through the Grieving Process of a Divorce

Divorce is a challenging and emotional process for everyone involved, especially for children. They may experience loss, confusion, and fear about the future. As parents, it’s crucial to support your children through the grieving process and help them adjust to the changes.

According to the CDC, about 50% of American children will experience their parents’ divorce. This staggering statistic highlights the importance of being prepared. When half of all children are likely to go through such a significant family upheaval, it becomes essential for parents, educators, and counselors to be equipped with the knowledge and tools to support them effectively. 

In this blog, we will discuss the impact of divorce on children and provide tips to help you and your family navigate this difficult time. Additionally, we’ll explore how working with a skilled DuPage divorce attorney can ease the transition and ensure that your family moves on peacefully.

Understanding the Impact of Divorce on Children

Divorce marks the end of a partnership for adults and brings significant changes to their children’s lives. This transition can trigger a complex emotional response in young ones. Children of divorced parents are 25% more likely to have serious psychological and social problems than children of married parents. Recognizing and addressing the five stages of grief in children can offer valuable support, helping them adapt healthily to their new reality.

Children of different ages react to divorce in various ways, but common feelings include sadness, anger, anxiety, and guilt. They may worry about losing contact with one parent, changing homes, or experiencing a shift in their daily routines. Understanding these feelings is the first step in providing the necessary support.

Strategies to Support Children Through the Grieving Process

When parents separate, children experience their version of the grieving process. The emotional journey can be deeply impactful, making it essential for guardians, educators, and counselors to understand these stages to provide empathetic and constructive support. Here are some tips that can help:

  1. Open Communication: Encourage your children to express their feelings and listen to them without judgment. Let them know feeling sad, angry, or confused is okay.
  2. Consistency and Routine: Maintain consistent routines to provide a sense of stability. Consistent meal times, bedtimes, and school routines can help children feel more secure.
  3. Reassurance and Support: Reassure your children that both parents still love them and will continue to be involved in their lives. Spend quality time with your children and engage in activities they enjoy.
  4. Model Positive Behavior: Children often mimic their parents’ behavior. Show them how to handle emotions healthily and demonstrate respect and cooperation with your ex-spouse.

By acknowledging their feelings and guiding them through this difficult time, we can help children navigate their emotions and build resilience for the future. Consider seeking help from a DuPage divorce attorney.

Explore Divorce Mediation

Divorce Mediation is one of the best options for helping your children through this life change and for encouraging a harmonious relationship between you and the other parent. Mediation is a form of alternative dispute resolution (ADR) that involves a neutral third party who facilitates communication between the parties to help them reach a mutually beneficial solution. Unlike a judge, the mediator does not make decisions for the parties; instead, they help the parties reach their agreement.

Mediation typically begins with both parties meeting with their mediator to discuss the issues. The mediator then facilitates communication between the parties, helping them identify and address their concerns. Once an agreement is reached, the mediator drafts a written contract that both parties can sign.

In some cases, mediation may not be successful. However, even in these situations, the parties may better understand each other’s positions and concerns, making future negotiations more straightforward and ultimately helping to minimize the impact on children’s well-being.

Working With a DuPage Divorce Attorney

Navigating the legal aspects of a divorce can be overwhelming, especially when trying to focus on your children’s well-being. At Masters Law Group, our DuPage divorce attorneys can provide the support needed to manage the legal complexities and help your family transition smoothly. Our main goal is to help protect your rights and your children’s best interests. Here are some of the areas that can help you navigate:

  1. Parenting Time: If you have children, working with a DuPage divorce attorney can help determine parental responsibilities and visitation arrangements. This helps ensure that the agreed-upon arrangements prioritize your children’s well-being and best interests.
  2. Mediation and alternative dispute resolution: Explore options such as mediation or collaborative divorce to help you and your ex-spouse reach mutually beneficial agreements outside of court. Your DuPage divorce attorney can guide you through these processes and represent your interests during negotiations.
  3. Post-divorce modifications: After the divorce is finalized, there may be circumstances that require modifications to parental responsibilities, visitation, or support arrangements. Stay in touch with your attorney to address any changes or issues that may arise in the future.

Beyond legal advice, our compassionate DuPage divorce attorneys understand the emotional toll of divorce. They can offer resources and referrals to counseling and support groups for you and your children.

Moving Forward Peacefully

Divorce is undoubtedly challenging, but with the right support, it’s possible to navigate this transition in a way that minimizes its impact on your children. By fostering open communication and working with a dedicated DuPage divorce attorney, you can help your children cope with their emotions and move forward with a sense of security and peace.

At Masters Law Group, serving clients in Cook County and DuPage County, Illinois, our experienced attorneys understand that divorce is a stressful situation for everyone involved. We prioritize our clients’ assurance and well-being throughout the mediation process.

Contact our DuPage divorce attorneys today if you’re facing a divorce and are concerned about your children’s well-being. They will guide you through the process, ensuring your family’s needs are met and helping you move on to a brighter future.

4 Must-Dos to Save Your Marriage: Insights from Masters Law Group

Trying to save your marriage feels like protecting a fragile journey that both of you have embarked on together. It’s about protecting the bond that connects your hearts, especially when facing tough times.

Please note: This article is not for individuals in a dangerous or abusive environment. If you or your children are at risk, seek immediate help via this link for Illinois’ Domestic Violence assistance, or call the Domestic Violence Helpline: 

  • 1-877-TO END DV or 1-877-863-6338 (Voice)
  • 1-877-863-6339 (TTY)

The hotline is toll free, confidential, multilingual, and open 24-hour.

63% of people who divorced said having a better understanding of commitment prior to marrying could have stopped their union from collapsing. More than half said that if they had a better understanding of their spouse’s morals and values prior to getting married, they might still be together.

At Masters Law Group, we empathize with the intricate dynamics of relationships, recognizing the strains that may push couples toward contemplating divorce. However, before taking that significant step, there are crucial actions you can take that could salvage your relationship. Here are four must-dos to try and save your marriage, grounded in professional insight and practical advice.

1. PRIORITIZE OPEN AND HONEST COMMUNICATION

Communication is the cornerstone of any successful relationship. Misunderstandings, resentment, and emotional distance can easily creep in without it. Many couples drift apart simply because they stop talking to each other. At Masters Law Group, we’ve seen how poor communication often precedes the decision to file for divorce. If you’re looking to save your marriage, here are some tips to help move communication:

  • Schedule Regular Check-Ins: Make it a habit to sit down and discuss your feelings, concerns, and expectations. This doesn’t have to be formal—sometimes, the best conversations happen over coffee or during a walk in the park.
  • Active Listening: Listen to your partner without interrupting. Validate their feelings and show empathy. Often, people want to feel heard and understood.
  • Avoid Blame Games: Focus on expressing your feelings using “I” statements rather than blaming your partner. For instance, say, “I feel neglected when you come home late” instead of “You never come home on time.”
  • Seek Professional Help: Sometimes, a neutral third party, like a marriage counselor, can facilitate better communication. Therapy can provide tools and strategies to improve your dialogue and resolve conflicts effectively.

2. REIGNITING THE SPARK TO SAVE YOUR MARRIAGE

Over time, it’s natural for the initial passion in a relationship to fade. However, maintaining emotional and physical intimacy is crucial for a healthy marriage. At Masters Law Group, we often hear from clients who feel their marriages have become more like business partnerships than romantic ones. Here are some ways you can help reignite that spark:

  • Date Nights: Regularly set aside time for just the two of you. Whether it’s a fancy dinner out or a cozy night in, make sure it’s something you both enjoy.
  • Surprise Each Other: Small, unexpected gestures can go a long way in making your partner feel special. This could be a handwritten note, a favorite snack, or a spontaneous weekend getaway.
  • Physical Touch: Don’t underestimate the power of touch. Hold hands, hug, and make time for intimacy. Physical closeness can strengthen your bond and reinforce your connection.
  • Shared Activities: Find hobbies or activities that you both enjoy. This can create shared experiences and memories, reinforcing your bond.

3. ADDRESS AND RESOLVE CONFLICTS CONSTRUCTIVELY

Every couple argues—it’s a natural part of any relationship. However, how you handle these conflicts can make or break your marriage. At Masters Law Group, we’ve observed that unresolved conflicts can lead to long-term resentment and, eventually, marriage breakdown. Here are some strategies for conflict resolution:

  • Stay Calm: Avoid raising your voice or letting anger take control. Take a break if needed to cool down before discussing the issue.
  • Focus on the Issue, Not the Person: Attack the problem, not your partner. Stay focused on resolving the issue rather than bringing up past grievances or personal attacks.
  • Compromise: Be willing to meet in the middle. Relationships are about give and take; sometimes, finding a middle ground is the best solution.
  • Agree to Disagree: Recognize that you won’t agree on everything. It’s okay to have different opinions as long as you respect each other’s perspectives.

4. BUILD A STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM

Having a robust support system can provide the emotional and practical help you need to navigate the ups and downs of marriage. At Masters Law Group, we understand that external support can often provide a fresh perspective and much-needed encouragement during tough times.

  • Family and Friends: Lean on trusted family members and friends who can offer advice and support. They can provide a different perspective and remind you of the love and commitment you have for each other.
  • Couples Therapy: Professional counseling can offer strategies and tools to strengthen your relationship. Therapists can help you understand each other better and work through issues constructively.
  • Support Groups: Joining a support group for couples can provide a sense of community. Sharing experiences with others in similar situations can be comforting and informative.
  • Self-Care: Taking care of your mental and physical health is crucial. When you feel good about yourself, you can bring a more positive attitude to your relationship.

WHEN TO SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP

Despite your best efforts, there are times when the challenges in a marriage may feel insurmountable. If you’ve tried these strategies and still find your relationship struggling, it may be time to seek professional help. 

At Masters Law Group, we offer comprehensive family law services, including divorce, mediation, and counseling referrals. We aim to help you save your marriage, and we understand that divorce is sometimes the best option for both parties.

Our divorce attorneys are here to help provide compassionate and knowledgeable support through every step of the divorce process. 

FINAL THOUGHTS

In order to help save your marriage requires effort, commitment, and a willingness to seek help. Divorce is a difficult journey, but couples in DuPage County and across Illinois can access professional help to make the process smoother for everyone involved. Masters Law Group offers guidance on divorce and mediation, helping you find the best path forward for you and your family. 

Contact us today to set up your complimentary consultation.

Navigating The Nuances of LGBTQ+ Divorce in Illinois

The end of a marriage is always challenging for the couple involved, and the impact on family members can be significant. This holds true for those in LGBTQ+ marriages as well. If you’re going through a divorce, striving for an amicable resolution is crucial.

Same-sex marriage became legal in Illinois on June 1, 2014, thanks to the Illinois Religious Freedom and Marriage Fairness Act signed by Governor Pat Quinn on November 20, 2013. This law also allowed civil unions in Illinois to be converted to marriages within a year. 

However, despite these strides, LGBTQ+ couples encounter unique complexities in divorce, including legal nuances and emotional hurdles. Support and guidance from a skilled divorce attorney are crucial to help navigate divorce effectively. Here’s what you need to know.

Understanding LGBTQ+ Divorce in Illinois

Navigating a gay divorce involves grappling with legal frameworks that may still be evolving in some jurisdictions. While marriage equality is recognized in many places, the intricacies of divorce laws can vary widely. Moreover, dealing with societal attitudes and biases can add stress to an already challenging situation.

In Illinois, same-sex couples seeking a divorce must adhere to specific criteria. Firstly, they must be legally married. Additionally, they must fulfill the 90-day residency requirement and file for divorce in their county. Irreconcilable differences serve as the primary grounds for divorce, as is the case for all couples in the state. The divorce proceedings typically encompass a blend of out-of-court negotiations, courtroom litigation, and mediation sessions.

Given the intricate nature of divorce proceedings, same-sex couples should seek the guidance of a divorce attorney well-versed in the nuances of same-sex divorce. Getting the help you need will not only help ensure adherence to legal procedures and provide valuable resources for emotional support throughout the process.

Understanding Illinois Asset Division

Asset division can be contentious in any divorce, including for LGBTQ+ couples. Illinois Asset division divides marital property and debts between spouses fairly and equitably. It’s essential to understand that the goal is not necessarily to divide everything equally but rather fairly, considering the unique circumstances of the marriage. Here’s how it works:

  1. Contribution to the Marriage: The court looks at what each spouse brought to the marriage regarding money and non-money contributions like caring for the home or children.
  2. Duration of the Marriage: How long the marriage lasted matters, as it can affect how assets are divided.
  3. Economic Circumstances: Each spouse’s financial situation, including income and needs, is considered.
  4. Non-Marital Property: Things owned before marriage or received as gifts or inheritance during marriage may not be split.
  5. Custodial Arrangements: If there are kids, the court looks at the allocation of parental responsibilities and how it impacts finances.
  6. Spousal Support (Alimony): Whether one spouse needs support payments is factored in.
  7. Tax Consequences: Taxes resulting from asset division are considered to make things fair.
  8. Wasteful Dissipation: If one spouse recklessly spends or wastes money, it can affect the division.
  9. Future Needs: The court considers what each person will need, especially if one is in a tougher spot after the divorce.
  10. Agreements: Any agreements made before or during the marriage, like prenups, are considered if they meet legal standards.

A skilled divorce attorney can help prioritize your best interest regarding asset division. It’s important to note that equitable distribution doesn’t always mean a perfect 50/50 split. It’s about creating a fair and just arrangement based on each family’s unique situation. This process can be tricky, so it’s a good idea to work with a skilled family law attorney to help ensure your rights are protected during asset division in Illinois.

Allocation of Parental Responsibilities

In Illinois, same-sex couples enjoy equal rights to opposite-sex couples concerning the allocation of parental responsibilities and divorce. However, there are distinct legal considerations that LGBTQ+ couples may encounter during divorce. This includes the following: 

  1. The child is born while the spouses are married to each other.
  2. The child is born after the marriage is terminated. It must be within 300 days after that termination.
  3. In the first two situations, the couple attempted to enter into a marriage or civil union “in apparent compliance with the law.” However, that marriage or union is later terminated or declared invalid for some reason.
  4. A person marries the birth mother after the child is born and consents to being added to the birth certificate.

Additionally, the court may evaluate if one parent is unwilling or unable to engage in co-parenting, potentially leading to a sole parental determination. The law encourages parents to collaborate on crucial child welfare decisions, including education, healthcare, religion, and extracurricular activities. Courts prefer shared responsibility between parents and may allocate it to one if necessary. If parents fail to reach an agreement on a parenting plan, a judge may employ the same criteria utilized in opposite-sex couples’ divorces to decide parental responsibilities.

A skilled divorce attorney can effectively advocate for the children’s best interests while nurturing a positive co-parenting dynamic.

Emotional Support and Healing

Beyond the legal intricacies, the emotional toll of divorce can be profound. For LGBTQ+ individuals, facing the end of a relationship can evoke a wide array of emotions, including feelings of isolation, rejection, and uncertainty about the future. It’s essential to prioritize self-care during this challenging time. Here are some tips for navigating the emotional journey of divorce:

  • Seek Support: Contact friends, family, or mental health professionals for emotional support and guidance.
  • Participate in LGBTQ+-Friendly Support Groups: Joining support groups or therapy sessions tailored to the LGBTQ+ community can provide a safe and understanding space to process emotions.
  • Practice Self-Care: Take time to engage in activities promoting relaxation, mindfulness, and self-reflection.
  • Be Gentle with Yourself: Understand that it’s normal to experience a range of emotions during this time, and it’s okay to give yourself permission to feel and heal at your own pace.
  • Focus on Personal Growth: Use this opportunity for self-discovery and personal growth. Explore new interests, hobbies, or goals that bring fulfillment and joy.

Taking proactive steps to address emotional well-being is crucial for navigating the challenges of divorce and emerging stronger on the other side.

Getting The Help You Need

One of the first steps in navigating the nuances of an LGBTQ+ divorce is seeking the guidance of a knowledgeable divorce attorney. Masters Law Group understands that divorce is a stressful situation and that our clients want to move on with their lives. We empower you to make informed decisions and strive for an outcome that supports your best interests and your family’s.

As such, we move through settlement negotiations, mediation, or litigation with our client’s assurance and well-being in mind. Whether you are facing an LGBTQ+ contested divorce, uncontested divorce, or civil union divorce, our firm’s divorce attorneys are ready to skillfully advocate for your position and provide your voice when you need it most.

Final Thoughts

As we close out Pride Month, Masters Law Group reaffirms its commitment to supporting all members of the LGBTQ+ community, including those navigating divorce. By fostering empathy and understanding, we can help LGBTQ+ individuals emerge from divorce stronger and ready to embrace new beginnings. You don’t have to navigate this journey alone. With the guidance of our compassionate divorce attorneys and a supportive community, healing and closure are within reach. 

Contact us today to schedule your complimentary consultation.

Tips For Celebrating Father’s Day Amidst Divorce

Father’s Day holds special significance as a time to honor and celebrate the father figures in our lives. Yet, for dads navigating divorce, finding the balance of co-parenting and managing new parenting schedules can feel overwhelming.

The number of children living solely with their fathers has increased over the past few decades. In 1968, only 0.8 million children lived with their fathers. That number has grown to 3.3 million today, reflecting a shift toward fathers taking on roles traditionally reserved for mothers. While divorce and separation have become more common over time, it also provides hope that affected individuals still thrive despite its challenges.

In this blog, we’ll explore strategies for navigating Father’s Day, with tips for supporting your children, focusing on what you can control, and how a family law attorney can provide assistance. Here’s what you need to know.

PLAN FATHER’S DAY ACTIVITIES IN ADVANCE

Planning is one of the most crucial steps to a smooth Father’s Day celebration amidst divorce. Last-minute arrangements can lead to stress and misunderstandings. Here are some key considerations to help you effectively plan for Father’s Day:

  • Make a plan in advance: Discuss and agree on the Father’s Day schedule well in advance. This helps avoid last-minute conflicts and helps ensure both parents are on the same page regarding visitation arrangements. Planning early also allows for adjustments if needed, giving everyone extra time to prepare and make necessary arrangements.
  • Involve the Children: Consider your children’s wishes and feelings when planning for Father’s Day. Ask them how they would like to celebrate and try incorporating their ideas into the plan. Involving them in your plan helps their voices be heard, making them feel included in the celebration. Whether it’s a special outing, a homemade gift, or simply spending quality time together, involving the children in planning can make the day more meaningful for everyone.
  • Be Flexible: While planning is important, it’s also essential to remain flexible. Unexpected events or changes in circumstances may require adjustments to the original plan. Being open to flexibility and willing to accommodate each other’s needs can help prevent conflicts and provide a more enjoyable Father’s Day for all involved.

By proactively planning and considering the preferences of all parties involved, you can help ensure that Father’s Day is a positive and memorable experience amidst divorce.

CREATE NEW FATHER’S DAY TRADITIONS

Starting new traditions with your children for Father’s Day offers an opportunity to infuse the occasion with fresh meaning and excitement. It’s a chance to help create unique experiences and strengthen your bond as a family. Whether navigating Father’s Day in between a divorce or simply seeking to revitalize the celebration, establishing new traditions can be fun and rewarding. 

  • Consider Everyone’s Interests: Choose activities that cater to your interests as a father and your children’s preferences. Whether it’s a nature hike, a cooking session, or a fun craft project, find activities everyone can participate in and enjoy.
  • Make it Meaningful: Infuse your new traditions with meaning and significance. Consider incorporating elements that reflect your family values or create opportunities for bonding and quality time together.
  • Document the Memories: Capture the moments and memories created during your new traditions. Take photos, write in a journal, or create a scrapbook to preserve these special moments for years to come.

These new traditions can become cherished rituals that you and your children look forward to each year, strengthening your connection and creating lasting bonds of love and joy.

FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL 

If you’re navigating Father’s Day amidst a divorce, it’s important to focus on what you can control and let go of what you cannot. While you may not be able to control your ex-partner’s actions or attitudes, you can control your response and behavior. 

  • Practice Self-Care: Take care of yourself emotionally and physically before Father’s Day. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether spending time with friends, practicing mindfulness, or pursuing a hobby.
  • Stay Present: Instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, focus on being present and enjoying your time with your children.
  • Seek Support: If you feel overwhelmed or emotional, lean on friends or family. Surround yourself with positive influences who can offer encouragement and perspective.

A family law attorney can offer guidance and legal advice to help you develop a plan that provides clarity and structure throughout the planning process. With a clear plan, you can aim for special celebrations filled with warmth and understanding.

ABIDE BY YOUR PARENTING PLAN 

A parenting plan can help alleviate potential conflicts, including those surrounding occasions like Father’s Day. It provides a comprehensive framework for both parents to follow, reducing ambiguity and promoting smoother communication and cooperation. 

Once you receive a parenting plan after divorce, it’s not open for negotiation. Short of approval for an order modification, both parents are expected to follow their parenting plan as it’s written.

Essential components to have in your plan include:

  • Residence arrangements for the child.
  • Allocation of parenting time for each parent.
  • Protocols for sharing information and records concerning the child.
  • Transportation arrangements for parenting time.

Both parents must sign the plan indicating they agree on all the document terms when filing one plan. If parents do not agree, they must file separate plans. The court will look at each detail of both plans to determine what’s in the best interest of the child or children. Seeking a divorce attorney’s assistance can help facilitate productive discussions and formalize any changes to the parenting plan.

ALLOCATION OF PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES

If you have followed the tips above and are having trouble reaching an agreement, an Allocation of Parental Responsibilities can help. Understanding the allocation of parental responsibilities is crucial for fostering a cooperative co-parenting relationship. In Illinois, there are three primary types of child allocation of parental responsibilities:

  • Joint allocation of parental responsibilities requires parents to collaborate on decision-making regarding their child’s education, healthcare, religious instruction, and other essential matters. The parents will agree, or the court will assign a residential parent. The non-residential parent will provide child support and have designated parenting time, as determined by a parenting time agreement or court order.
  • Sole allocation of parental responsibilities refers to an arrangement where one parent assumes full responsibility for making decisions concerning the child’s well-being. However, it doesn’t imply that the other parent is wholly excluded from the child’s life.
  • Shared allocation of parental responsibilities is a variation of joint allocation. It is suitable when the child spends equal time with both parents. The parents live in the same school district and can co-parent effectively. 

For fathers facing challenges in navigating parental responsibilities, seeking help from a family law attorney can be valuable. An attorney can provide legal advice and help establish a parenting arrangement that serves the child’s best interests while addressing both parents’ needs and concerns.

WORKING WITH MASTERS LAW GROUP

Celebrating Father’s Day amidst a divorce requires careful planning and focusing on the children’s well-being. Remember, the goal is to honor the father’s role in your children’s lives while fostering a cooperative co-parenting relationship.

At Masters Law Group, our goal is to help clients assert their rights to help protect the best interests of their children. Partner Anthony G. Joseph brings valuable insights to our firm as both a father and an experienced practitioner in divorce cases. He is also an approved Guardian Ad Litem and Child Representative listed for the Domestic Relations Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.

With a strong focus on assisting clients in Chicago and Chicago’s Western Suburbs (Elmhurst, Hinsdale, DuPage, Oakbrook), we offer various services to help parents, children, and families through difficult times like divorce and allocation of parental responsibilities. If you face challenges navigating Father’s Day amidst a divorce and want to know your rights, don’t hesitate to reach out. 

Contact us today to set up your complimentary consultation.

Summer Break Tips for Recently Divorced Parents

With the end of the school year quickly approaching in the Chicagoland area, parents are preparing to have their kids back home full-time. For recently divorced parents, summer break can come with its own set of complexities and emotions.

More than a million U.S. children are affected by divorce each year, and according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) roughly 50% of American children will witness their parents’ divorce. Navigating the intricacies of handling divorce is crucial to helping children experience a stress-free and enjoyable summer. Whether you’re facing your first summer as a single parent or a seasoned co-parent, here are some essential tips to help you navigate summer break smoothly.

Understanding Parental Responsibilities

Summer schedules can become complex quickly, with changes in parenting arrangements and the need to coordinate holiday time with a former spouse. Parental responsibilities encompass both parenting time and decision-making authority. Parenting time, formerly called “visitation,” outlines the schedule for each parent’s time with the children. A family court judge determines and approves this schedule and intervenes if parents cannot agree.

Decision-making authority pertains to significant aspects of the child’s life, including education, health care, religious upbringing, and extracurricular activities. Divorced parents can share these responsibilities jointly or allocate them into specific categories. If the parents can’t agree on who gets what responsibility, the Illinois family court judge will allocate those responsibilities among them. Let’s explore some tips to help make your co-parenting a breeze this summer.

Flexibility is Key for Divorced Parents

As the anticipation of summer builds, sitting down with your ex-partner to discuss and plan the upcoming summer schedule ahead of time is crucial. This proactive approach helps coordinate vacations, camps, and other summer activities. A well-thought-out plan can help parents and children look forward to an exciting and memorable summer. With a clear plan, you can preempt last-minute conflicts and ensure that both parents enjoy quality time with their children during this special time of year.

In co-parenting, flexibility is crucial, especially during the summer months when schedules tend to be more fluid. Remember that flexibility benefits you and contributes to a positive experience for your children. By embracing flexibility and working with your ex-partner, you can create a summer filled with cherished memories for the whole family.

Have Clear Holiday Parenting Plans

Summer break often means a break from the usual routine. And if you’re newly divorced parents, it can be a stressful time trying to navigate the change without disturbing the peace. A clear co-parenting plan can provide stability and predictability for you and your children. Take this opportunity to revisit your parenting plan and how you and your ex-spouse share outlined responsibilities and decisions regarding your children. 

If you’re unsure about how to create or modify your co-parenting plan, seeking the assistance of a family law attorney can be incredibly valuable. A family law attorney can offer guidance and legal advice to help you develop a plan that provides clarity and structure throughout the summer season.

Open Communication is Key

Summer is often filled with special occasions and planned trips. Keeping the lines of communication open is a proactive way to discuss any concerns or potential changes to the schedule. This level of openness promotes transparency and can help reassure children that summer can still be enjoyable despite changes in the family dynamic. 

Regular check-ins help ensure that both parents are on the same page. Whether it’s a quick phone call, text message, or face-to-face meeting, check-ins provide an opportunity to address any issues. By prioritizing open communication, you can foster a cooperative co-parenting environment that benefits everyone involved.

Put Your Children First

Parents, caregivers, and educators play a vital role in supporting children emotionally during and after a divorce. Research indicates that children often face significant challenges during this period, particularly in the first year or two post-divorce. It’s crucial to recognize that each child is unique, with their own set of feelings and needs.

Pay close attention to your children’s emotions and requirements, offering support if they struggle with the changes brought about by the divorce. While disagreements may naturally arise, strive to minimize conflicts, especially when in the presence of the children. Cultivate a positive co-parenting relationship, placing the well-being of your children at the forefront of your priorities.

However, if conflicts persist despite efforts to resolve them amicably, seeking assistance from a family law attorney may be necessary. They can provide guidance and support to help navigate legal complexities while ensuring the best interests of your children remain the primary focus.

Work with a Family Law Attorney

If you’re facing significant challenges or disagreements with your co-parent, consider seeking guidance from a family law attorney. An experienced family law attorney can help by providing valuable advice and helping you navigate complex legal issues related to custody, visitation, and parenting plans. 

At Masters Law Group, our family law attorneys focus on helping clients assert their rights to further the best interests of their children. Attorney Erin E. Masters is a court-appointed Child Representative with experience advocating for children in these high-conflict matters. Attorney Anthony G. Joseph is an approved Guardian Ad Litem/Child Representatives list for the Domestic Relations Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.

With a strong focus on assisting clients in Cook County and DuPage County, Illinois, we offer various services to help parents, children, and families through difficult times like Divorce, Allocation of Parental Responsibilities, and more.

Final Thoughts

Summer break can be a time of fun and relaxation for both parents and children, even after a divorce. By planning ahead of time and communicating effectively to put your children’s best interests first, you can easily navigate the summer months. 

If you require legal assistance, contact a member of our legal team today. Our family law attorneys will work with you to develop an appropriate action plan for your unique needs and goals. We will work diligently on your behalf and provide regular updates.

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Navigating Divorce on Mother’s Day

As Mother’s Day approaches, moms going through a divorce may be experiencing sadness, loneliness, and guilt. However, the most important thing to remember is that it can also be painful for your children, but it doesn’t have to be. How can you move past these negative feelings and enjoy the celebration that you deserve? Plan new traditions!

Mother’s Day is a special occasion dedicated to honoring the mother figures in our lives for their love and selfless sacrifices. However, for mothers going through divorce, finding a balance through this transitional period can feel like an overwhelming and emotional challenge.

Approximately 50% of all children in the United States will witness the end of their parents’ marriage, underscoring the significant impact divorce can have on families. While divorce and separation have become more common over time, it also provides hope that affected individuals still thrive despite its challenges.

In this blog, we’ll explore strategies for navigating Mother’s Day, with tips for supporting your children, maintaining focus on what you can control, and how a family law attorney can help. Here’s what you need to know.

Understanding Children’s Emotions in Divorce

Divorce can be particularly challenging for children, and occasions like Mother’s Day may exacerbate many different emotions. Providing emotional support and creating a safe environment for your children to express themselves is crucial as a divorced parent. It’s important to recognize the signs of reactions exhibited by children, including:

  • Feelings of sadness and loss: Children may experience a sense of grief and mourn the loss of the intact family they once knew.
  • Anger and resentment: Children may express their frustration and anger over the divorce, often directed towards one or both parents.
  • Anxiety and insecurity: The stability and routine they once relied upon may be disrupted, leading to feelings of uncertainty and anxiety about their future. They may worry about their living arrangements, school changes, and how their relationships with their parents will be affected.
  • Academic and behavioral challenges: Divorce can impact a child’s educational performance and behavior. They may struggle to concentrate, exhibit aggression, withdraw, or act out to cope with their emotions.

Understanding the effects of divorce on children is crucial to providing them with the necessary support during this challenging time. Let’s look at how parental responsibilities and parenting time can be beneficial during this difficult transitional period.

Parental Responsibilities Tips for Mother’s Day

Parental responsibilities include two main items: parenting time (formerly “visitation”) and the power to make decisions for children. Parenting time is a schedule that shows when each parent spends time with the children. This schedule is created and approved by a judge in family court. If the parents can’t agree on the schedule, the judge will decide what’s best for the child and assign a schedule for the parents.

Parental responsibilities also refer to the decision-making obligations each parent will have on behalf of the child. Parents can agree to make these decisions together or divide them into categories, which should cover the following:

  • Education
  • Health
  • Religion
  • Extracurricular Activities

If the parents can’t agree on who gets what responsibility, the Illinois family court judge will allocate those responsibilities among them. Let’s dive into some tips to help you make co-parenting easier this Mother’s Day.

Review and Update Your Parenting Plan

One of the first steps in navigating Mother’s Day after a divorce is establishing clear guidelines for parental responsibilities. Crafting a parenting plan that addresses special occasions like Mother’s Day requires a well-thought-out agenda that can help alleviate confusion and minimize conflict. When creating a parenting plan for Mother’s Day, consider the following:

  • Alternating Years: Decide whether Mother’s Day will be alternated between parents each year or if there will be separate celebrations with each parent.
  • Flexibility: Be open to flexibility and compromise. Sometimes, unexpected circumstances may arise, and being willing to adjust plans accordingly can help benefit everyone involved.
  • Respect Boundaries: Respect each other’s boundaries and wishes regarding Mother’s Day celebrations. If one parent prefers to spend the day alone with the children, honor that request and find alternative ways to celebrate.

Try to maintain a united front regarding co-parenting decisions. Keeping children out of adult conflicts can help reassure them of your love and support.

Keep an Open Line of Communication

Effective communication with your co-parent can be key to successfully navigating Mother’s Day. While emotions may run high, maintaining a respectful and cooperative co-parenting relationship is essential for the well-being of your children. This partnership can help reassure children that special events can still be celebrated despite changes in the family dynamic.

Discuss plans for Mother’s Day to avoid last-minute conflicts or misunderstandings. Clearly outline expectations and responsibilities to help ensure a smooth celebration. Be willing to compromise and accommodate each other’s schedules and preferences. Remember that the focus should be on what’s best for the children, even if it means adjusting plans. 

Ways to Build New Family Traditions after Divorce

We’ve compiled a list of three, great ideas for newly divorced couples with families to create new traditions in the next chapter of their lives and the lives of their kids.

  • Plan Your Getaway: Starting a yearly vacation tradition with your family can be incredibly rewarding. You might opt to revisit a beloved destination annually, or perhaps you’ll gather everyone’s input to decide on a new adventure each year. This special time away gives everyone something to eagerly anticipate and offers a valuable opportunity to reconnect amidst the hustle and bustle of daily life.
  • Acknowledging Change: It’s unrealistic to expect life to remain unchanged post-divorce. Significant adjustments lie ahead, and it’s essential for everyone involved to recognize and accept this reality. However, this transition also presents an opportunity to establish new plans and traditions for the future. Clear communication about custody arrangements and upcoming events helps set expectations and fosters a sense of stability for all.
  • Embrace Flexibility: Flexibility can be a cornerstone of amicable divorces, though it can be challenging when tensions run high. Yet, being open to compromise can benefit everyone involved. For instance, offering to adjust your schedule to accommodate your ex-spouse’s plans for a special event demonstrates goodwill and may pave the way for reciprocal flexibility down the line.

Focus on What You Can Control This Mother’s Day

Finally, in navigating Mother’s Day after a divorce, it’s important to focus on what you can control and let go of what you cannot. While you may not be able to control your ex-partner’s actions or attitudes, you can control your response and behavior. Here’s how to focus on what you can control:

  • Practice Self-Care: Take care of yourself emotionally and physically before Mother’s Day. Engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether spending time with friends, practicing mindfulness, or pursuing a hobby.
  • Stay Present: Instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, focus on being present and enjoying your time with your children.
  • Seek Support: If you feel overwhelmed or emotional, lean on friends or family. Surround yourself with positive influences who can offer encouragement and perspective.

A family law attorney can offer guidance and legal advice to help you develop a plan that provides clarity and structure throughout the planning process. With a clear plan, you can aim for special celebrations filled with warmth and understanding.

How Masters Law Group Can Help

Navigating Mother’s Day after a divorce requires patience and a willingness to prioritize the well-being of your children above all else. At Masters Law Group, our family law attorneys focus on helping clients assert their rights to further the best interests of their children.

As a mom herself, Partner Erin E. Masters can empathize the pain moms must go through when navigating divorce proceedings, especially over Mother’s Day. To help mother’s across Illinois, Erin is also a court-appointed Child Representative with experience advocating for children in these high-conflict matters. Furthermore, Partner Anthony G. Joseph is an approved Guardian Ad Litem/Child Representatives list for the Domestic Relations Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.

With a strong focus on assisting clients in Chicago and Chicago’s Western Suburbs (Elmhurst, Hinsdale, DuPage, Oakbrook), we offer various services to help parents, children, and families through difficult times like divorce and allocation of parental responsibilities. If you face challenges navigating Mother’s Day after or during divorce and want to know your rights, don’t hesitate to reach out. Set up a complimentary consultation today.

Divorce In The Forces: PTSD

As we observe Military Appreciation Month this May, it’s essential to acknowledge the challenges faced by military families, particularly when it comes to issues like mental health problems and navigating divorce.

While at its core, military divorce shares common legal aspects with civilian divorces, complexities arise with military pensions, child custody arrangements, and other family law matters, often causing tensions between the separating spouses. Moreover, when mental health challenges such as depression and PTSD, prevalent among military personnel, are factored in, navigating this emotionally fraught journey becomes even more delicate and intricate.

Mental Health in The Military

The lifestyle of military families and the multiple stressors that military partners face can lead to anxiety as well as major depressive disorder. It is important to be aware of such where there’s anxiety; you may also find major depressive disorder.

According to the U.S. Department of Veteran Affairs, 7 out of every 100 Veterans (or 7%) will have PTSD. In the general population, 6 out of every 100 adults (or 6%) will have PTSD in their lifetime. PTSD is also more common among female Veterans (13 out of 100, or 13%) versus male Veterans (6 out of 100, or 6%). We are learning more about transgender Veterans and those who do not identify as male or female (non-binary). PTSD can affect how couples get along with each other. It can also directly affect the mental health of partners.

A subsequent study by Combat Stress asked veterans’ partners about their experiences of living with someone with PTSD. The results showed that partners face challenges, including inequality in their relationship, loss of their own identity, living in a volatile environment, and emotional distress and isolation.

Understanding Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and Divorce

PTSD is a mental health condition that can arise following exposure to or witnessing a traumatic event. The impact of PTSD can reverberate throughout every facet of a relationship, manifesting in communication breakdowns and even violent outbursts. Common symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares, severe anxiety, and uncontrollable thoughts about an event. 

According to the National Vietnam Veterans Readjustment Study (NVVRS), Veterans with PTSD exhibit a higher likelihood of experiencing marital difficulties. The study revealed that Veterans with PTSD:

  • Are twice as likely to undergo divorce.
  • Are three times more prone to multiple divorces.
  • Tend to have shorter-lasting relationships.

It’s crucial to understand that these symptoms stem not from choice or weakness but from profound psychological trauma. If you are a spouse navigating a partner’s PTSD, patience, compassion, and education are paramount. Let’s explore some tips for navigating PTSD and divorce.

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Navigating PTSD & Divorce

Navigating divorce with a military spouse requires a delicate balance of empathy, understanding, and practical support. Understanding what your spouse is going through can help you respond with compassion. While being supportive is important, setting boundaries to protect your well-being is also essential. Make it clear what behavior is acceptable and what is not, and be prepared to enforce those boundaries if necessary.

While these strategies can help manage the challenges of divorce with a spouse with PTSD and other mental health issues, there may come a point where professional help is necessary. Here are some signs that it may be time to seek professional help:

  • Escalating Conflict: If conflicts with your spouse are becoming more frequent or intense, and attempts to resolve them have been unsuccessful, it may be time to involve a professional mediator or divorce attorney.
  • Safety Concerns: If you or your children feel unsafe or threatened by your spouse’s behavior, it’s essential to take steps to protect yourselves, which may include seeking a protective order or filing for divorce.
  • Lack of Progress: If your spouse is unwilling or unable to seek treatment for their PTSD, or if their symptoms are not improving despite treatment, it may be time to involve a mediator or divorce attorney.

Recognizing the right time to seek assistance from a divorce attorney is essential. It’s crucial to work with a divorce attorney who has experience in handling cases involving military families and comprehends the intricacies of PTSD.

What You’ll Need To File A Divorce

If you’re a military family, there are some limitations on what you can do regarding filing for divorce. When couples find themselves struggling to resolve conflict, and divorce seems like more and more of a reality, many parents question whether or not they should stay or pursue separation. Often, the best way to approach possible psychological issues in a military divorce is the same way they should be approached in every divorce, albeit with some unique additions.

The Federal Service Members Civil Relief Act of 2003 requires a person seeking a divorce to state their spouse is not a member of the U.S. armed forces. This rule prevents spouses from divorcing military members who could not attend divorce proceedings.

If your spouse is a member of the military, you can pursue a divorce as long as they consent. However, they have to sign a defendant’s affidavit of consent. Even though there are a few added rules regarding the military divorce process, the remaining process is similar to civilian divorce. You will still need to agree on the following:

In many cases, you can file for a no-fault divorce (Illinois is a No-Fault Divorce State) if you and your spouse agree on the terms of your divorce. If not, however, an experienced divorce lawyer can help mediate your dispute and draft a settlement agreement. 

How a Divorce Attorney Can Help

We understand that military life can be difficult for families, especially when divorce is involved. At Masters Law Group, we consider all aspects of military life when working with our clients during their divorces. Here are some areas where we can help guide you:

  • Parenting Plans: If you have children, it’s essential to work closely with your attorney to determine the most suitable arrangements for allocating parental responsibilities and visitation. We aim to help create arrangements that prioritize your children’s well-being and best interests.
  • Mediation and Alternative Dispute Resolution: We encourage exploring options like mediation and collaborative divorce, which can facilitate mutually beneficial agreements outside the courtroom. Our family law attorneys will skillfully guide you through these processes, representing your interests and helping you secure a smoother negotiation experience.
  • Post-Divorce Modifications: Life can bring unexpected changes even after the divorce is finalized. Circumstances may arise that require modifications to parental responsibilities, visitation, or support arrangements. Our attorneys are here to assist you in addressing these changes promptly and effectively, helping protect your rights and the interests of your children.

Working with a divorce attorney can help you confidently navigate the complexities of divorce and help reduce stress. Your rights and the well-being of your family are our top priorities.

Final Thoughts

PTSD, depression, and divorce can be a match made in hell. If you are seeking divorce in the military, you don’t have to go it alone. At Masters Law Group, we move through settlement negotiations, mediation, or litigation with our clients’ assurance and well-being in mind.

Whether you are facing a contested divorce, uncontested divorce, or civil union divorce in the forces this Military Appreciation Month, our firm’s attorneys are ready to skillfully advocate for your position and provide your voice when you need it most.

Contact us today to set up your complimentary consultation.