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Summer Break Tips for Recently Divorced Parents

With the end of the school year quickly approaching in the Chicagoland area, parents are preparing to have their kids back home full-time. For recently divorced parents, summer break can come with its own set of complexities and emotions.

More than a million U.S. children are affected by divorce each year, and according to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) roughly 50% of American children will witness their parents’ divorce. Navigating the intricacies of handling divorce is crucial to helping children experience a stress-free and enjoyable summer. Whether you’re facing your first summer as a single parent or a seasoned co-parent, here are some essential tips to help you navigate summer break smoothly.

Understanding Parental Responsibilities

Summer schedules can become complex quickly, with changes in parenting arrangements and the need to coordinate holiday time with a former spouse. Parental responsibilities encompass both parenting time and decision-making authority. Parenting time, formerly called “visitation,” outlines the schedule for each parent’s time with the children. A family court judge determines and approves this schedule and intervenes if parents cannot agree.

Decision-making authority pertains to significant aspects of the child’s life, including education, health care, religious upbringing, and extracurricular activities. Divorced parents can share these responsibilities jointly or allocate them into specific categories. If the parents can’t agree on who gets what responsibility, the Illinois family court judge will allocate those responsibilities among them. Let’s explore some tips to help make your co-parenting a breeze this summer.

Flexibility is Key for Divorced Parents

As the anticipation of summer builds, sitting down with your ex-partner to discuss and plan the upcoming summer schedule ahead of time is crucial. This proactive approach helps coordinate vacations, camps, and other summer activities. A well-thought-out plan can help parents and children look forward to an exciting and memorable summer. With a clear plan, you can preempt last-minute conflicts and ensure that both parents enjoy quality time with their children during this special time of year.

In co-parenting, flexibility is crucial, especially during the summer months when schedules tend to be more fluid. Remember that flexibility benefits you and contributes to a positive experience for your children. By embracing flexibility and working with your ex-partner, you can create a summer filled with cherished memories for the whole family.

Have Clear Holiday Parenting Plans

Summer break often means a break from the usual routine. And if you’re newly divorced parents, it can be a stressful time trying to navigate the change without disturbing the peace. A clear co-parenting plan can provide stability and predictability for you and your children. Take this opportunity to revisit your parenting plan and how you and your ex-spouse share outlined responsibilities and decisions regarding your children. 

If you’re unsure about how to create or modify your co-parenting plan, seeking the assistance of a family law attorney can be incredibly valuable. A family law attorney can offer guidance and legal advice to help you develop a plan that provides clarity and structure throughout the summer season.

Open Communication is Key

Summer is often filled with special occasions and planned trips. Keeping the lines of communication open is a proactive way to discuss any concerns or potential changes to the schedule. This level of openness promotes transparency and can help reassure children that summer can still be enjoyable despite changes in the family dynamic. 

Regular check-ins help ensure that both parents are on the same page. Whether it’s a quick phone call, text message, or face-to-face meeting, check-ins provide an opportunity to address any issues. By prioritizing open communication, you can foster a cooperative co-parenting environment that benefits everyone involved.

Put Your Children First

Parents, caregivers, and educators play a vital role in supporting children emotionally during and after a divorce. Research indicates that children often face significant challenges during this period, particularly in the first year or two post-divorce. It’s crucial to recognize that each child is unique, with their own set of feelings and needs.

Pay close attention to your children’s emotions and requirements, offering support if they struggle with the changes brought about by the divorce. While disagreements may naturally arise, strive to minimize conflicts, especially when in the presence of the children. Cultivate a positive co-parenting relationship, placing the well-being of your children at the forefront of your priorities.

However, if conflicts persist despite efforts to resolve them amicably, seeking assistance from a family law attorney may be necessary. They can provide guidance and support to help navigate legal complexities while ensuring the best interests of your children remain the primary focus.

Work with a Family Law Attorney

If you’re facing significant challenges or disagreements with your co-parent, consider seeking guidance from a family law attorney. An experienced family law attorney can help by providing valuable advice and helping you navigate complex legal issues related to custody, visitation, and parenting plans. 

At Masters Law Group, our family law attorneys focus on helping clients assert their rights to further the best interests of their children. Attorney Erin E. Masters is a court-appointed Child Representative with experience advocating for children in these high-conflict matters. Attorney Anthony G. Joseph is an approved Guardian Ad Litem/Child Representatives list for the Domestic Relations Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.

With a strong focus on assisting clients in Cook County and DuPage County, Illinois, we offer various services to help parents, children, and families through difficult times like Divorce, Allocation of Parental Responsibilities, and more.

Final Thoughts

Summer break can be a time of fun and relaxation for both parents and children, even after a divorce. By planning ahead of time and communicating effectively to put your children’s best interests first, you can easily navigate the summer months. 

If you require legal assistance, contact a member of our legal team today. Our family law attorneys will work with you to develop an appropriate action plan for your unique needs and goals. We will work diligently on your behalf and provide regular updates.

Contact us today to set up a complimentary consultation.

Do Parental Responsibilities Fall Under The Hague Convention?

Parental responsibility cases can be emotionally challenging and legally complex, especially when situations arise that involve parental child abduction. When family disputes span across national or international borders, the Hague Convention can prove a valuable resource for the parent left behind.

While the main goal of the Hague Convention is to secure the prompt return of children wrongfully removed to or retained in any country (which is not the child’s country of habitual residence), it does not affect or impact the decision-making process regarding custody issues (allocation of parental responsibilities), nor does it focus on the underlying merits of a custody dispute. Rather, it determines under what circumstances a child should be returned to a country for custody proceedings under that country’s laws.

Understanding how this convention applies to parental responsibility cases is crucial for parents recently filing for divorce or separation who have international connections. Unfortunately, some parents never accept the divorce and purposely cause problems, sometimes by taking their child far away from the other parent. 

PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY AND PARENTING PLANS

In Illinois, the landscape of parental arrangements has evolved. “Allocation of Parental Responsibilities” includes the division of decision-making responsibility, previously known as “legal custody,” and parenting time, previously known as “visitation,” amongst the parties.  Parenting plans outline the schedule dictating a child’s interactions with each parent after a divorce or separation. 

Without a parenting plan, no official documentation exists specifying where a child should be at any given time. This legal void can lead to situations where parents can, without repercussion, abandon their children or take them away without the explicit consent of the other parent. In the state of Illinois, according to 720 ILCS Sec. 10-5(b)(6), a parent can abduct their child if, absent a custodial order/parenting plan, “knowingly conceals” a child “for 15 days and fails to make reasonable attempts within the 15 days to notify the other parent.” Let’s take a look at how Illinois grants custody.

HOW ILLINOIS GRANTS CUSTODY

Approximately 40% of states in the United States strive to provide equal custody time for both parents. Courts consider the child’s best interests when determining parenting arrangements. They aim to confirm that the child maintains a strong and healthy relationship with both parents.

They consider the child’s age, needs, and each parent’s ability to provide a safe environment. The court may select a mother over a father if the father negatively impacts the child or vice versa. Having clear guidelines and agreements can help establish stability and promote effective co-parenting. If you are a parent facing international parental child abduction, or feel your family is at risk of such an event, let’s look at how the Hague Convention could help.

“RIGHTS OF CUSTODY” UNDER THE HAGUE CONVENTION

As previously mentioned, the Convention does not affect or impact the decision-making process regarding custody issues (allocation of parental responsibilities), nor does it focus on the underlying merits of a custody dispute. However, it aims to secure the prompt return of children who have been wrongfully removed to or retained in any contracting state and distinguishes between the remedies available to protect “rights of custody” and “rights of access.”

  • “Rights of custody” includes rights relating to the care of the child and the right to determine the child’s place of residence.
  • “Rights of access” includes the right to take the child for a period of time – Article 5(a).

The Convention protects rights of access without an order of return, but in some circumstances, an “access parent” may be considered to hold rights of custody and thus be entitled to an order for the child’s return under the Convention.

PROTECTING PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES ACROSS BORDERS

The Hague Convention sets out clear procedures for determining where the child normally lives and dealing with wrongful removal or retention cases. Each country appoints central authorities to resolve disputes, and courts in both the child’s home country and the country where they’re in decide on the best course of action. 

If the Convention states if the removal or retention was wrongful, then the court must order the child returned to his or her habitual residence for a custody determination, unless the responding parent (the parent who removed or retained the child ) can establish one of the following:

  1. More than one year has passed since the wrongful removal or retention and the child is settled in his or her new environment
  2. The petitioning parent was not actually exercising custody rights at the time of the removal or retention
  3. The petitioning parent had consented to or subsequently acquiesced in the removal or retention
  4. The child objects to being returned and is of an age and maturity level at which it is appropriate to take account of his or her views
  5. There is a “grave risk” that the child’s return “would expose the child to physical or psychological harm or otherwise place the child in an intolerable situation,” or
  6. The return of the child would be inconsistent with “fundamental principles … relating to the protection of human rights and fundamental freedoms.”

Overall, the Hague Convention helps maintain stability and consistency in parenting arrangements while protecting the rights of children and parents involved in cross-border disputes.

CHALLENGES TO CONSIDER

Parents often face hurdles when dealing with international parenting disputes. One of the most significant challenges is simply navigating another country’s legal system. This can involve language barriers, unfamiliar legal procedures, and cultural differences, making it difficult for parents to advocate for their rights effectively. 

Additionally, parents may struggle to locate and communicate with their children, especially if the other parent is hiding them. In some cases, parents may also face obstacles related to travel, such as visa restrictions or prohibitive travel costs. International parental responsibility cases can be highly stressful and emotionally taxing for parents. That’s why having the right support and guidance is essential throughout the process.

GETTING THE HELP YOU NEED

The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction can be a valuable resource for resolving abduction cases involving international borders, prioritizing their well-being. 

But to navigate these complex cases successfully, seeking legal counsel with knowledge and experience in Hague proceedings is extremely valuable. Erin Masters and Anthony Joseph have extensive experience in cases involving international parental disputes in courts located in the State of Illinois and the United States federal court system. 

Our profound understanding and proficiency with The Hague Convention on Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction (“The Hague Convention”), enacted into law through the International Child Abduction Remedies Act (“ICARA”), empowers us to help advocate thoroughly and effectively. 

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Summer Vacation and Child Custody: Tips for Parenting Time

Co-parenting during the summer months can present unique challenges. With the right strategies in place, you can help make it stress-free for you and your child.

This blog will delve into valuable tips to help co-parents navigate summer vacations while maintaining a harmonious co-parenting relationship. By implementing these parenting tips, you can help ensure your child’s summer break is filled with fun, love, and quality time spent with both parents.

Read on to discover effective co-parenting techniques that will make your summer vacation successful.

What is Parenting Time?

The term “custody” is no longer used in the law. It is now called “parental responsibilities.” This includes parenting time (formerly “visitation”) and decision-making power.  Parenting time refers to the time each parent spends with their child.

Parenting time is literally just a schedule of each parent’s time with the children.  This schedule is agreed to and approved by the family court judge.  If the parents can’t agree on the schedule, the family court judge will assign the parents a schedule based on the “best interests” of the child.

Parental responsibilities refer to the decision-making responsibilities that each parent will have on behalf of the child. The parties may agree to share decision-making for the child or they may divide up the individual categories of decision-making responsibilities.

Those categories of decision-making responsibility must include:

  • Education
  • Health
  • Religion
  • Extracurricular Activities

If the parents can’t agree on who gets what responsibility, the Illinois family court judge will allocate those responsibilities amongst them. (See more below on Allocation of Parental Responsibilities).

Does Illinois Grant Equal Custody?

Approximately 40% of states in the United States strive to provide equal custody time for both parents. Courts consider the child’s best interests when determining parenting time and custody arrangements. They aim to ensure that the child maintains a strong and healthy relationship with both parents. They consider factors such as the child’s age, needs, and the ability of each parent to provide a safe environment.

Illinois courts grant parenting time and responsibilities based on the child’s best interest. This means the court only favors a mother over a father if the father negatively impacts the child.

Clear guidelines and agreements regarding parenting time and custody can help establish stability and promote effective co-parenting. Let’s take a deeper look at some helpful co-parenting methods.

Plan In Advance

Effective co-parenting requires proactive planning for summer vacation. Start by discussing your vacation plans with the other parent well in advance. This allows both of you to evaluate and discuss the feasibility of the proposed dates and destinations. Consider factors such as your child’s preferences, special events or activities they may want to participate in, and overall availability. Considering these commitments helps you avoid scheduling conflicts and ensures your child doesn’t miss out on critical activities.

Engaging in open and constructive communication with the other parent is crucial during the planning stage. Discussing your expectations and desires for the vacation allows you to find common ground and work towards a mutually agreeable arrangement. It’s essential to listen to each other’s concerns and be willing to compromise where necessary. Remember, the focus should always be on providing your child with a positive and enriching vacation experience.

By initiating discussions early, considering your child’s preferences, school schedules, and commitments, and maintaining open communication with the other parent, you can avoid conflicts and work together to create a memorable and enjoyable summer vacation for your child.

Communicate Openly

Clear and open communication is vital to successful co-parenting. Communication becomes even more critical during the summer break. Keep each other informed about your vacation plans, including travel itineraries, accommodation details, and emergency contacts. Regularly update the other parent about any changes or delays impacting the agreed-upon schedule. Maintaining open lines of communication ensures transparency and builds trust between co-parents.

Be Flexible And Compromise

Flexibility is crucial when co-parenting during summer vacation. Understand that unexpected events or last-minute opportunities may arise, requiring adjustments to the agreed-upon plans. Be willing to accommodate reasonable requests from the other parent, and consider your child’s best interests when making decisions. Maintaining a cooperative and flexible attitude helps create a positive co-parenting dynamic and allows for enjoyable vacations for everyone involved.

Create A Detailed Vacation Plan

To avoid confusion and minimize potential conflicts, create a detailed vacation plan that outlines the agreed-upon arrangements. Include travel dates, pick-up and drop-off locations, transportation arrangements, and contact details for both parents. This plan can serve as a reference point for both parents and helps ensure that everyone is on the same page.

Consider The Child’s Needs

While making vacation plans, always prioritize the well-being and happiness of your child. Consider their preferences, interests, and special considerations such as allergies or medical requirements. Involve your child in the decision-making process where appropriate, giving them a sense of ownership and excitement about the vacation. Remember, the goal is to create lasting memories and positive experiences for your child.

Respect Boundaries

When co-parenting during summer vacation, respecting each other’s boundaries is crucial. Avoid involving your child in conflicts or negative discussions about the other parent. Remember custody and visitation agreements. Demonstrating respect sets a positive example for your child and fosters a harmonious co-parenting relationship. Plan for regular communication between your child and the non-custodial parent. Consider phone calls, video chats, or updates based on your child’s age and preferences. By planning, considering the child’s needs, and respecting boundaries, co-parents can ensure a smooth and enjoyable vacation for their children.

Allocation of Parental Responsibilities

If you have followed the tips above and are having trouble reaching a civil agreement regarding parenting time, the Allocation of Parental Responsibilities can help. In Illinois, there are three primary types of child allocation of parental responsibilities: joint allocation, sole allocation, and shared allocation.

Joint allocation of parental responsibilities requires parents to collaborate on decision-making regarding their child’s education, healthcare, religious instruction, and other essential matters. The parents will agree, or the court will assign a residential parent. The non-residential parent will provide child support and have designated parenting time, as determined by a parenting time agreement or court order.

Sole allocation of parental responsibilities refers to an arrangement where one parent assumes full responsibility for making decisions concerning the child’s well-being. However, it doesn’t imply that the other parent is wholly excluded from the child’s life.

Shared allocation of parental responsibilities is a variation of joint allocation. It is suitable when the child spends equal time with both parents. The parents live in the same school district and can co-parent effectively. Working with an established family law attorney can ultimately help you reach an agreement.

How Masters Law Group Can Help

Masters Law Group focuses on helping clients assert their rights to further the best interests of their children. Attorney Erin E. Masters is a court-appointed Child Representative with experience advocating for children in these high-conflict matters. Attorney Anthony G. Joseph is an approved Guardian Ad Litem/Child Representatives list for the Domestic Relations Division of the Circuit Court of Cook County.

With a strong focus in assisting clients in Chicago’s Western Suburbs (Elmhurst, Hinsdale, DuPage, Oakbrook) we offer various services to help parents, children, and families through difficult times like Divorce, Parenting Time, and Allocation of Parental Responsibilities.

If you require legal assistance, contact a member of our legal team today. Our attorneys will work with you to develop an appropriate action plan for your unique needs and goals. We will work diligently on your behalf and provide regular updates. Contact us today to set up a complimentary consultation.